Hey new to the site, as I still have my V plates and that needs to change!! I have no problem in actualy pulling girls in clubs... I dont lack the confidence for that (usually because im plastered) just got a girls number whos quite older than me (shes 22 im 19) her freind was saying i was too young but she didnt seem to mind! anyway i got her number were do i go from now? do i wait a few days? and what do i say! im not the greatest conversationalist! cheers. Also i dont have a car which is a pain in the butt, is this much of a problem?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Got her number... now what!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Some guys call. I normally text.
I say "Hey it's Iceberg from Saturday. (Insert funny anecdote about the night) Let's do drinks this week. Like Thursday."
She says yes, no, or you never hear from her. I don't do all that texting back and forth, or smiley faces. Just "Hey it's me. Had fun. Let's hang out on (X Day)."
I say "Hey it's Iceberg from Saturday. (Insert funny anecdote about the night) Let's do drinks this week. Like Thursday."
She says yes, no, or you never hear from her. I don't do all that texting back and forth, or smiley faces. Just "Hey it's me. Had fun. Let's hang out on (X Day)."
Masculinity
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The two-day rule to call is common knowledge. I used to text, but after losing
some girls I made it a habit to call. I call and ask:
Me: Hey is dork there?
Her: What? lol
Me: Hah, what's up kiddo? This is Robyn (refer to something funny that
happened when you met her).
Her: Ohh...hi!
Me: What are you up to?
Her: hfjkahfalkjfhklsjfhaks, you?
Me: Cool, I'm mixing some tunes in my computer. Hey, (girl name) what are
you doing Friday night.
Her: Not much/ hanging out with adhjkahlfkd
Me: [If she isn't doing anything]: Listen, I'm going for a walk Friday night, tag
along and let's get some tea and hangout as friends. [If she's doing
something]: Hah, well call adshfjkadshlf and tell him/her you won't be able
to hangout because you're hanging out with me.
Her: Giggling...hah, ok. When and where?
And then just take it from there. I give you some props for getting a girl
older than you. You refer to her as a friend so that she starts asking herself
if you like her. If it all goes well the first night, the 2nd time you see her you
should invite her over to your place or bring a movie to hers and escalate
two steps forward and one step back.
some girls I made it a habit to call. I call and ask:
Me: Hey is dork there?
Her: What? lol
Me: Hah, what's up kiddo? This is Robyn (refer to something funny that
happened when you met her).
Her: Ohh...hi!
Me: What are you up to?
Her: hfjkahfalkjfhklsjfhaks, you?
Me: Cool, I'm mixing some tunes in my computer. Hey, (girl name) what are
you doing Friday night.
Her: Not much/ hanging out with adhjkahlfkd
Me: [If she isn't doing anything]: Listen, I'm going for a walk Friday night, tag
along and let's get some tea and hangout as friends. [If she's doing
something]: Hah, well call adshfjkadshlf and tell him/her you won't be able
to hangout because you're hanging out with me.
Her: Giggling...hah, ok. When and where?
And then just take it from there. I give you some props for getting a girl
older than you. You refer to her as a friend so that she starts asking herself
if you like her. If it all goes well the first night, the 2nd time you see her you
should invite her over to your place or bring a movie to hers and escalate
two steps forward and one step back.