"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Got a #, SPecial circumstance, When to call?

sanyo7878

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I sent a few messages on facebook back an forth with a girl that I used to have a class with (she was in a serious relationship the time)... I asked her if she wanted to go watch a basketball game with me next semester. She said definitely so I sent another msg and got her number. I go to a university and I'm going home to a different city until january. Should I call over christmas break just to say hello? I was thinking of maybe calling her in about a week or 10 days. If I don't call, I"m definitely going to send her a message on facebook to see how she is doing. Any suggestions?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Charm

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Dont you want to see her? Rather then msging her to see how she is doing, make plans.

"Lets get together some time. I had the most exciting idea for something to do. Tell me when you are free this week."
 

sanyo7878

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I would definitely do that but I'm leavin town tomorrow.. and I got her number this morning.
 

Charm

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Then wait until you get back. Dont be her friend unless thats all you want her to be.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Call whenever you want, but honestly I wouldn't get my hopes up. I have got a girl's # before at a basketball game actually, and when i called her the next day, she didn't pick up. Called her once more the next night and left a message. Never ever heard from that girl. Just giving you the heads up. She could change her mind. Btw, the girl I got the number from, later on I found out she had a bf!
 

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I know she doesn't have a boyfriend. I've bumped into her on campus a few times but never got the guts to ask her out. She knows I'm not a serial killer, lol.

Anyway... this is what i'm going to do i think... she loves UNC's backetball team. In a couple of weeks when i see they have a big win I'm going to call her and say I thought of her when I saw that they won. I"m going to small talk it up, tell her I hope she has a good christmas, etc. Then I'm going to say.. "I'll give you a call in a couple of weeks when we get back to campus and we'll have to get together for a basketball game or something"...

WHat do ya'll think?
 
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