I sent a few messages on facebook back an forth with a girl that I used to have a class with (she was in a serious relationship the time)... I asked her if she wanted to go watch a basketball game with me next semester. She said definitely so I sent another msg and got her number. I go to a university and I'm going home to a different city until january. Should I call over christmas break just to say hello? I was thinking of maybe calling her in about a week or 10 days. If I don't call, I"m definitely going to send her a message on facebook to see how she is doing. Any suggestions?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Got a #, SPecial circumstance, When to call?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Call whenever you want, but honestly I wouldn't get my hopes up. I have got a girl's # before at a basketball game actually, and when i called her the next day, she didn't pick up. Called her once more the next night and left a message. Never ever heard from that girl. Just giving you the heads up. She could change her mind. Btw, the girl I got the number from, later on I found out she had a bf!
I know she doesn't have a boyfriend. I've bumped into her on campus a few times but never got the guts to ask her out. She knows I'm not a serial killer, lol.
Anyway... this is what i'm going to do i think... she loves UNC's backetball team. In a couple of weeks when i see they have a big win I'm going to call her and say I thought of her when I saw that they won. I"m going to small talk it up, tell her I hope she has a good christmas, etc. Then I'm going to say.. "I'll give you a call in a couple of weeks when we get back to campus and we'll have to get together for a basketball game or something"...
WHat do ya'll think?
Anyway... this is what i'm going to do i think... she loves UNC's backetball team. In a couple of weeks when i see they have a big win I'm going to call her and say I thought of her when I saw that they won. I"m going to small talk it up, tell her I hope she has a good christmas, etc. Then I'm going to say.. "I'll give you a call in a couple of weeks when we get back to campus and we'll have to get together for a basketball game or something"...
WHat do ya'll think?