I sent a few messages on facebook back an forth with a girl that I used to have a class with (she was in a serious relationship the time)... I asked her if she wanted to go watch a basketball game with me next semester. She said definitely so I sent another msg and got her number. I go to a university and I'm going home to a different city until january. Should I call over christmas break just to say hello? I was thinking of maybe calling her in about a week or 10 days. If I don't call, I"m definitely going to send her a message on facebook to see how she is doing. Any suggestions?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Got a #, SPecial circumstance, When to call?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Call whenever you want, but honestly I wouldn't get my hopes up. I have got a girl's # before at a basketball game actually, and when i called her the next day, she didn't pick up. Called her once more the next night and left a message. Never ever heard from that girl. Just giving you the heads up. She could change her mind. Btw, the girl I got the number from, later on I found out she had a bf!
I know she doesn't have a boyfriend. I've bumped into her on campus a few times but never got the guts to ask her out. She knows I'm not a serial killer, lol.
Anyway... this is what i'm going to do i think... she loves UNC's backetball team. In a couple of weeks when i see they have a big win I'm going to call her and say I thought of her when I saw that they won. I"m going to small talk it up, tell her I hope she has a good christmas, etc. Then I'm going to say.. "I'll give you a call in a couple of weeks when we get back to campus and we'll have to get together for a basketball game or something"...
WHat do ya'll think?
Anyway... this is what i'm going to do i think... she loves UNC's backetball team. In a couple of weeks when i see they have a big win I'm going to call her and say I thought of her when I saw that they won. I"m going to small talk it up, tell her I hope she has a good christmas, etc. Then I'm going to say.. "I'll give you a call in a couple of weeks when we get back to campus and we'll have to get together for a basketball game or something"...
WHat do ya'll think?