I sent a few messages on facebook back an forth with a girl that I used to have a class with (she was in a serious relationship the time)... I asked her if she wanted to go watch a basketball game with me next semester. She said definitely so I sent another msg and got her number. I go to a university and I'm going home to a different city until january. Should I call over christmas break just to say hello? I was thinking of maybe calling her in about a week or 10 days. If I don't call, I"m definitely going to send her a message on facebook to see how she is doing. Any suggestions?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Got a #, SPecial circumstance, When to call?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Call whenever you want, but honestly I wouldn't get my hopes up. I have got a girl's # before at a basketball game actually, and when i called her the next day, she didn't pick up. Called her once more the next night and left a message. Never ever heard from that girl. Just giving you the heads up. She could change her mind. Btw, the girl I got the number from, later on I found out she had a bf!
I know she doesn't have a boyfriend. I've bumped into her on campus a few times but never got the guts to ask her out. She knows I'm not a serial killer, lol.
Anyway... this is what i'm going to do i think... she loves UNC's backetball team. In a couple of weeks when i see they have a big win I'm going to call her and say I thought of her when I saw that they won. I"m going to small talk it up, tell her I hope she has a good christmas, etc. Then I'm going to say.. "I'll give you a call in a couple of weeks when we get back to campus and we'll have to get together for a basketball game or something"...
WHat do ya'll think?
Anyway... this is what i'm going to do i think... she loves UNC's backetball team. In a couple of weeks when i see they have a big win I'm going to call her and say I thought of her when I saw that they won. I"m going to small talk it up, tell her I hope she has a good christmas, etc. Then I'm going to say.. "I'll give you a call in a couple of weeks when we get back to campus and we'll have to get together for a basketball game or something"...
WHat do ya'll think?