midwestguy
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Still no call yet.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
At first she gave signals that she said she would go out to dinner with me. Then started flaking.Originally posted by jprjrjr
I don't know why yall are calling this girl crazy. It's quite obvious the the dude making the posts is nuts. He's obsessed with this chick, and it's actually quite frightening to watch his obsession unfold on this forum...
SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU...SO WHAT? THERE ARE MILLIONS OF OTHER GIRLS.....LET IT GO.....
Look dude, whatever signals she gave you to beging with, it's obviousl she changed her mind.....LET IT GO.....Originally posted by midwestguy
At first she gave signals that she said she would go out to dinner with me. Then started flaking.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Im never going to get a date with a girl. I keep getting rejected, about to give up.Originally posted by Wyldfire
You sound like a freaking stalker. Just leave the girl alone, for God's sakes. If she's having some guy call you to scare you that means you aren't taking no for an answer when SHE REALLY MEANS NO.
http://www.johndmoore.net/ObsessiveLoveWheel.htmlOriginally posted by midwestguy
Im never going to get a date with a girl. I keep getting rejected, about to give up.
I think shes cute though. Just something about her smile and personality I liked, but then she started flaking.Originally posted by Wyldfire
http://www.johndmoore.net/ObsessiveLoveWheel.html
Deal with one problem at a time, dude. Talk to your psychologist about this stuff. You need to get a handle on YOURSELF before you should even begin to think about dating.
So what if you think she's cute. There are millions of girls you will think are cute on the planet. You need to get a grip of yourself. You ARE obsessing over this girl and she does NOT return your interest. What you are doing, thinking and feeling is UNHEALTHY for you. If you continue to try to pursue ANY contact with this girl you are going to come off as being bug sh*t crazy. Do you want to look like a nutcase? Forget you ever met this girl and do NOT let your mind run away with you every time a girl you are attracted to pays the slightest bit of attention to you. Unless a girl jumps your bones don't read too much into whether or not she likes you, too. Girls change their minds more than they change their clothes...especially when they are younger than 25.Originally posted by midwestguy
I think shes cute though. Just something about her smile and personality I liked, but then she started flaking.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
What could have caused her to change her mind?Originally posted by Wyldfire
So what if you think she's cute. There are millions of girls you will think are cute on the planet. You need to get a grip of yourself. You ARE obsessing over this girl and she does NOT return your interest. What you are doing, thinking and feeling is UNHEALTHY for you. If you continue to try to pursue ANY contact with this girl you are going to come off as being bug sh*t crazy. Do you want to look like a nutcase? Forget you ever met this girl and do NOT let your mind run away with you every time a girl you are attracted to pays the slightest bit of attention to you. Unless a girl jumps your bones don't read too much into whether or not she likes you, too. Girls change their minds more than they change their clothes...especially when they are younger than 25.
Who cares why she changed her mind? You really shouldn't care. It doesn't matter why. Knowing why won't change the fact that she changed her mind.Originally posted by midwestguy
What could have caused her to change her mind?
Well at work when I asked her out she agreed, and next day even asked me to name some places where to eat. few days after I asked her out I bought her a 20 giftcard for the mall and when I handed her the xmas card she said it was sweet of me and hugged me. She opend it and said I didnt have to buy her that and kept smiling. She said I should give it to my mom but I told her to keep it. She said she would call me abd all. Anyways she then said I was starting to get too pushy cause I was asking her otu everyday at work. But even when I called her after she left for school she still said she would call me. At work she said she didnt like giving her num out to guys and said she would call me, so I got her num from someone.Originally posted by Wyldfire
Who cares why she changed her mind? You really shouldn't care. It doesn't matter why. Knowing why won't change the fact that she changed her mind.
My guess is that you were too clingy...calling and contacting her too much, coming off as desperate. Girls do NOT like guys that try TOO HARD. It's good to show a little bit of interest but it's bad to over do it. I can almost guarantee that you are over-doing it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No. Its on the prep sports site.Originally posted by jprjrjr
I agree somewhat keto, but this guy is going way too far. She might have lead him on, but this is ridiculous.
P.S. Did anyone else notice he's got pictures of her from the newspaper...Tell me that's not a bit freaky....
I kept asking her out cause she didnt call me and I was nervous she would forget.Originally posted by ketostix
Midwestguy just learn from the experience and move onward. This is what girls do to young, inexperienced "nice" guys that come on to strong: Lead them on>subtely reject them or flake>if he doesn't get the "message", then she considers him a stalker and she has no blame. What she did was a little worse than some girls but not as bad as others might do. It's not necessarily personal this would happen to any guy who tried too hard and doesn't perceive her signs of disinterest.
Learn the lesson from this experience to not come on too strong, look for the (subtle) signs of her disinterest regardless of what she has said and done previously, and then move on to another girl or you'll just be labeled a stalker. And moving on also means to stop posting about it in this thread, people are already freaking out. I just wanted you to focus on the postive.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.