"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Got a phone call tonight.

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
Just leave it alone. If you feel that bad about it tell someone so you can have proof for the police. More then likely he was just trying to scare you off.

Leave it alone, focus your energy on something else and more positive. You are heading down a path that will be good for no one.

Leave it alone, get a new hobby and focus on that.
I mean if she has someone come and pay me a visit should I fight him then?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by midwestguy
I mean if she has someone come and pay me a visit should I fight him then?
If you dont have a choice of course, but if you can call the cops, and dont open the door.
 

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If you dont have a choice of course, but if you can call the cops, and dont open the door.
True call the police. What happens if he had a bat or knife? Then you can use force. This is kinda freaking me out.
 

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True call the police. What happens if he had a bat or knife? Then you can use force. This is kinda freaking me out.
Its freaking you out because you are focusing on something that is not even true. There is no bat, there is no knife, there is no this girl liking you.

The only truth is you are typing at a keyboard thinking about her and him, and they are somewhere living their lives not thinking aobut you. Start thinking postive, and having positive images, and go to see a movie later, or too a bar, or go hang out with some friends.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
Its freaking you out because you are focusing on something that is not even true. There is no bat, there is no knife, there is no this girl liking you.

The only truth is you are typing at a keyboard thinking about her and him, and they are somewhere living their lives not thinking aobut you. Start thinking postive, and having positive images, and go to see a movie later, or too a bar, or go hang out with some friends.
Also she comes down for easter I bet, and she will be back down for the summer. What happens if I run itno her cause she doesnt work too far from me at and and live too far. Should I just ignore her if I see her and just give her a dirty look?
 

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Remain friendly, but keep her under the category "some chick that I know"
I dont know. It would take all my power not to call her a b*tch in her face.
 

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Well what happens if she had one of her chump friends come over and beat me ass?

it wont happen!

move on man!

let it go

ive had this **** happen to me twice.

just a ***** with some punk ass fag friends who she has whipped too.

****ing hoe..she aint even all that..id like to *** in her eye.


ok my bad! ill relax
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Doing something like that would provoke her to start more 5hit. If you find it easier to ignore her, go that route.
What would she do then? Would she smack me you think?
 

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Him threatning me over state lines is a fed offense.

As regards offline stalking: in 1996 the US Federal Government passed The Interstate Stalking Punishment and Prevention Act of 1996 [ USC 18: 2261A ]. This made it a Federal crime to cross a State line with the intent to injure or harass another person. This law does little to help the Internet community of course as cyberstalking does not require the physical crossing of State lines. On the Internet this law can be found at nvc.org

USC 18: 41 - Extortion and Threats § 875 (c), is a little more useful in the case of threats made on the Internet, since it refers to "interstate communications". It states:

§ 875. Interstate communications

(c) Whoever transmits in interstate or foreign commerce any communication containing any threat to kidnap any person or any threat to injure the person of another, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than five years, or both.
 

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What would she do then? Would she smack me you think?
No, she'd probably just get all pissy. If she thinks you dislike her, she's got no reasons to send her guy buddies after you. Sounds kinda screwy doesn't it? Guys would want revenge in this situation, but a woman would only want her emotions to calm down.

As far as contacting the authorities over this issue, you definately have a good cause to. However, I highly doubt he's going to continue harassing you. He's only doing it because of some chick. If you abandon the entire situation with this chick, the harassment would most likely stop. Pressing charges will cause him to have a personal issue with you.

If you're continually recieving harassment from this guy, then contact the authorities.
 

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No, she'd probably just get all pissy. If she thinks you dislike her, she's got no reasons to send her guy buddies after you. Sounds kinda screwy doesn't it? Guys would want revenge in this situation, but a woman would only want her emotions to calm down.

As far as contacting the authorities over this issue, you definately have a good cause to. However, I highly doubt he's going to continue harassing you. He's only doing it because of some chick. If you abandon the entire situation with this chick, the harassment would most likely stop. Pressing charges will cause him to have a personal issue with you.

If you're continually recieving harassment from this guy, then contact the authorities.
Then what would happen if she told them I was bugging her and threw it back? Also in the law I posted its a fed crime coming over state lines. Would the local cops say to go to the FBi then?
 

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FBI!?! im sorry homie... U seem like a nice guy BUT you kinda slow there...
ARE U READIN ANYTHING THATS BEING POSTEd?!
U keep askin the same ****ing questions...

No guys with bats and knifes are gonna do anything...
FORGET ABOUT THIS DUMB UGLY ASS *****...
Find new chicks, live ur life... stop worrying about this...

Enough said...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Then what would happen if she told them I was bugging her and threw it back?
It really sounds like you're thinking too far into the future regarding this situation. Deal with the issues as they come. We've already given you advice on how to deal with the current situation. If things continue to happen, then give us an update.

You're getting way too wound up about this whole situation. You got a stupid phone call from this chick's guy friend. Ditch the chick and the bull5hit will most likely end.
 

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I called her and left that ***** a voicemail saying I didnt appreciate it her having a guy calling me and threatning me. I told her it was rude of her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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