"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Got a date tomorrow with a girl I met through Bootcamp

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I'm meeting her for coffee tomorrow at 5:00. I have shown so much self improvement with Bootcamp but I'm afraid I'm going to start to have Oneitis with this girl and destroy everything I've been working towards.

How can I avoid Oneitis?

How can I keep the Bootcamp going while dating?

Also, how much should I dress up for a coffee date?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bump

Come on now, I have to get offline soon, somebody give me some feedback
 

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I can tell you that when i start to have this problem I hit up some old and new girls to keep my mind from sticking to one.
 

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for coffee i usually wear jeans with a polo and some flips.

you dont have to "dress up" if you wouldn't normally dress up. you aren't trying to impress her... you're trying to figure out if she would fit into your life.
 

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How can I avoid Oneitis?


Read the DJ Bible everynight before you go to bed. :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Developing one-itis isn't the problem, its calling her repeadidly and seeing her too much that will ruin it. When I'm seeing a girl, I get one-itis all the time, but I limit myself and am motivated and determined to not seem like the AFC lonely **** head. I know I can't get rid of the one-itis when i'm seeing her, I just learn to get around it so it doesnt affect how i deal w/ her.
 

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Okay we went out for coffee for an hour. I decided to dress up and it is a good thing I did. As some of you may know, I met this girl while she was out jogging. Well she shows up dressed to kill. It turns out she's an attorney!

This is nuts! I'm a 27 year old college boy who can barely afford to pay my rent every month. I felt like such a little kid when I was with her. But the funny thing is she made sure she put my # into her phone and I did the same with hers.

Ugghhh, okay I just got to not take this one seriously and not worry too much. Just relax and have fun with it. I need to continue on with the BC which has lead me this far. I'm sure then I will be able to land some college babes that just want to get it on instead of a career woman.

I just wish I could get into some convos, I can't get one going for the life of me lately.

Okay, rant over,

onward,
 

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well done mate! thats really great!
 
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