"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Got a date tomorrow with a girl I met through Bootcamp

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I'm meeting her for coffee tomorrow at 5:00. I have shown so much self improvement with Bootcamp but I'm afraid I'm going to start to have Oneitis with this girl and destroy everything I've been working towards.

How can I avoid Oneitis?

How can I keep the Bootcamp going while dating?

Also, how much should I dress up for a coffee date?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bump

Come on now, I have to get offline soon, somebody give me some feedback
 

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I can tell you that when i start to have this problem I hit up some old and new girls to keep my mind from sticking to one.
 

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for coffee i usually wear jeans with a polo and some flips.

you dont have to "dress up" if you wouldn't normally dress up. you aren't trying to impress her... you're trying to figure out if she would fit into your life.
 

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How can I avoid Oneitis?


Read the DJ Bible everynight before you go to bed. :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Developing one-itis isn't the problem, its calling her repeadidly and seeing her too much that will ruin it. When I'm seeing a girl, I get one-itis all the time, but I limit myself and am motivated and determined to not seem like the AFC lonely **** head. I know I can't get rid of the one-itis when i'm seeing her, I just learn to get around it so it doesnt affect how i deal w/ her.
 

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Okay we went out for coffee for an hour. I decided to dress up and it is a good thing I did. As some of you may know, I met this girl while she was out jogging. Well she shows up dressed to kill. It turns out she's an attorney!

This is nuts! I'm a 27 year old college boy who can barely afford to pay my rent every month. I felt like such a little kid when I was with her. But the funny thing is she made sure she put my # into her phone and I did the same with hers.

Ugghhh, okay I just got to not take this one seriously and not worry too much. Just relax and have fun with it. I need to continue on with the BC which has lead me this far. I'm sure then I will be able to land some college babes that just want to get it on instead of a career woman.

I just wish I could get into some convos, I can't get one going for the life of me lately.

Okay, rant over,

onward,
 

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well done mate! thats really great!
 
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