"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Just wanted to say goodbye to my fellow So suave members.

This was a great place to vent!

All the best to everyone!:up:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SamTheHobit said:
Just wanted to say goodbye to my fellow So suave members.

This was a great place to vent!

All the best to everyone!:up:
Why and where are you going ? It must have taken you a while to build up those green dots - It would be a shame to throw away your e-cred now.. ;)
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Bring back PlayHer Man with no conditions and a full apology.
I know that's just a sig, but seriously? A guy flagrantly breaks the rules here and you expect him to be apologized to? No one is bigger than the site. C'mon PairPlus, you're better than this.

Seeing the reactions of this past week, it's apparent that men will fall for a guy using "jerk game" even quicker than women do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zekko said:
Seeing the reactions of this past week, it's apparent that men will fall for a guy using "jerk game" even quicker than women do.
Makes you wonder who the real homos are around here.
 

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Danger said:
Or perhaps the world is just starved for people who don't hold back for the sake of political correctness.
Calling people names like a 12 year old doesn't strike me as a bold stand against political correctness.
 

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Danger said:
And of course, your own post threw a subtle jab followed up by another poster with their own "12 year old insult". PHM had certain problems, but he didn't pull any punches, and for that he definitely gets my respect. If you choose to ignore messages because someone can be insulting, then you are only hurting your own growth. We can learn something from everyone, regardless of the medium or manner they choose to transmit that message.
Noted. At least you're not trying to portray him as a saint or a blameless martyr like some are.
 

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Why does he have to go around using homophobic slurs? Is he a closet homo? I know a gay person and they are pretty cool. He actually acts pretty alpha at work since he is the boss. I don't really care, he is a cool boss. So don't go around using those slurs.
 

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Danger said:
Some people looked past his "faggot" hallmark and focused on his message instead.

Such people should be commended for focusing on the real message and ignoring the rest, but you in turn call those people homos.
At least I used the verbally correct word "homo" when describing if someone might be gay. I agree the guy had some good messages. I don't really care what happened, I'm just saying it's not right to be using those slurs all the time and that's why he got banned.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No one has tried to portray him as anything. It's simple - you've either benefited from him or you haven't. I used to hate the guy when I first joined here. I saw him as an arrogant, far fetched moron with a huge ego - but then it clicked in me. It wasn't the message he was trying to portray that was the problem - it was me and my brain washed beta faggot outlook on life. I literally went from cringing at seeing his user name to looking forward to read his post and taking on board what he had to say.

Honestly, the guy has seriously woke me the fvck up and I owe it to him... I'm not one to a$$ lick anyone but I'll always show appreciation when it's needed. And to me personally, he deserves it. I'd most likely be stuck in my old beta ways if it was for his "brick in the face approach" being taken for an idiot.

It's really fvcked me off that he's been banned - and the worst thing is it's most likely a bunch of feminised fags that couldn't handle reality that got him it. He gave advice that purely benefited YOU, no one else...
 

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adam225 said:
it's most likely a bunch of feminised fags that couldn't handle reality that got him it.
He did it to himself. This is why I used the "like a 12 year old" phrase. I haven't heard anyone toss that word around like that since I was a freshman in high school. He insulted, berated, and accused anyone who disagreed with him of being feminized. Danger was right when he said the guy had problems.

I thought about 80% of what he said was good. The rest was paranoia and garbage. The good advice that he gave is readily available from numerous posters on this site, who manage to dispense it without calling people names.
 

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^^^You guys just don't get it.

Some people have some loyalty, and they're not going to drop that loyalty just because mods or other members tell them to. Good for them, they're not sheep.:up: :up: :up:

Some people liked the guy. Do you guys not understand this???

"Well, he used the term faggot!!"

Well, he's banned now for it.

Let guys talk about him, he was a friend and a mentor to some here.

Your ongoing attempts to convince other members how they should feel about PHM is only going to make it worse. And cause posters to defend him, like I'm doing now.
 

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WOW back in the day Francisco D'anconia was my mentor, and now Playher Man is the new site mentor? How things have changed. Sosuave is nothing like it used to be.
 

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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