SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Just wanted to say goodbye to my fellow So suave members.
This was a great place to vent!
All the best to everyone!
This was a great place to vent!
All the best to everyone!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why and where are you going ? It must have taken you a while to build up those green dots - It would be a shame to throw away your e-cred now..SamTheHobit said:Just wanted to say goodbye to my fellow So suave members.
This was a great place to vent!
All the best to everyone!![]()
I know that's just a sig, but seriously? A guy flagrantly breaks the rules here and you expect him to be apologized to? No one is bigger than the site. C'mon PairPlus, you're better than this.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Bring back PlayHer Man with no conditions and a full apology.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Makes you wonder who the real homos are around here.zekko said:Seeing the reactions of this past week, it's apparent that men will fall for a guy using "jerk game" even quicker than women do.
Calling people names like a 12 year old doesn't strike me as a bold stand against political correctness.Danger said:Or perhaps the world is just starved for people who don't hold back for the sake of political correctness.
Noted. At least you're not trying to portray him as a saint or a blameless martyr like some are.Danger said:And of course, your own post threw a subtle jab followed up by another poster with their own "12 year old insult". PHM had certain problems, but he didn't pull any punches, and for that he definitely gets my respect. If you choose to ignore messages because someone can be insulting, then you are only hurting your own growth. We can learn something from everyone, regardless of the medium or manner they choose to transmit that message.
At least I used the verbally correct word "homo" when describing if someone might be gay. I agree the guy had some good messages. I don't really care what happened, I'm just saying it's not right to be using those slurs all the time and that's why he got banned.Danger said:Some people looked past his "faggot" hallmark and focused on his message instead.
Such people should be commended for focusing on the real message and ignoring the rest, but you in turn call those people homos.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
He did it to himself. This is why I used the "like a 12 year old" phrase. I haven't heard anyone toss that word around like that since I was a freshman in high school. He insulted, berated, and accused anyone who disagreed with him of being feminized. Danger was right when he said the guy had problems.adam225 said:it's most likely a bunch of feminised fags that couldn't handle reality that got him it.
Malice said:WOW back in the day Francisco D'anconia was my mentor, and now Playher Man is the new site mentor? How things have changed. Sosuave is nothing like it used to be.
But you get the point. Didn't you recently make a thread asking where he was at?Peaks&Valleys said:mentor to some
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.