"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Goodbye fellow sosuave members.

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Just wanted to say goodbye to my fellow So suave members.

This was a great place to vent!

All the best to everyone!:up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SamTheHobit said:
Just wanted to say goodbye to my fellow So suave members.

This was a great place to vent!

All the best to everyone!:up:
Why and where are you going ? It must have taken you a while to build up those green dots - It would be a shame to throw away your e-cred now.. ;)
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Bring back PlayHer Man with no conditions and a full apology.
I know that's just a sig, but seriously? A guy flagrantly breaks the rules here and you expect him to be apologized to? No one is bigger than the site. C'mon PairPlus, you're better than this.

Seeing the reactions of this past week, it's apparent that men will fall for a guy using "jerk game" even quicker than women do.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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zekko said:
Seeing the reactions of this past week, it's apparent that men will fall for a guy using "jerk game" even quicker than women do.
Makes you wonder who the real homos are around here.
 

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Danger said:
Or perhaps the world is just starved for people who don't hold back for the sake of political correctness.
Calling people names like a 12 year old doesn't strike me as a bold stand against political correctness.
 

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Danger said:
And of course, your own post threw a subtle jab followed up by another poster with their own "12 year old insult". PHM had certain problems, but he didn't pull any punches, and for that he definitely gets my respect. If you choose to ignore messages because someone can be insulting, then you are only hurting your own growth. We can learn something from everyone, regardless of the medium or manner they choose to transmit that message.
Noted. At least you're not trying to portray him as a saint or a blameless martyr like some are.
 

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Why does he have to go around using homophobic slurs? Is he a closet homo? I know a gay person and they are pretty cool. He actually acts pretty alpha at work since he is the boss. I don't really care, he is a cool boss. So don't go around using those slurs.
 

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Danger said:
Some people looked past his "faggot" hallmark and focused on his message instead.

Such people should be commended for focusing on the real message and ignoring the rest, but you in turn call those people homos.
At least I used the verbally correct word "homo" when describing if someone might be gay. I agree the guy had some good messages. I don't really care what happened, I'm just saying it's not right to be using those slurs all the time and that's why he got banned.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No one has tried to portray him as anything. It's simple - you've either benefited from him or you haven't. I used to hate the guy when I first joined here. I saw him as an arrogant, far fetched moron with a huge ego - but then it clicked in me. It wasn't the message he was trying to portray that was the problem - it was me and my brain washed beta faggot outlook on life. I literally went from cringing at seeing his user name to looking forward to read his post and taking on board what he had to say.

Honestly, the guy has seriously woke me the fvck up and I owe it to him... I'm not one to a$$ lick anyone but I'll always show appreciation when it's needed. And to me personally, he deserves it. I'd most likely be stuck in my old beta ways if it was for his "brick in the face approach" being taken for an idiot.

It's really fvcked me off that he's been banned - and the worst thing is it's most likely a bunch of feminised fags that couldn't handle reality that got him it. He gave advice that purely benefited YOU, no one else...
 

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adam225 said:
it's most likely a bunch of feminised fags that couldn't handle reality that got him it.
He did it to himself. This is why I used the "like a 12 year old" phrase. I haven't heard anyone toss that word around like that since I was a freshman in high school. He insulted, berated, and accused anyone who disagreed with him of being feminized. Danger was right when he said the guy had problems.

I thought about 80% of what he said was good. The rest was paranoia and garbage. The good advice that he gave is readily available from numerous posters on this site, who manage to dispense it without calling people names.
 

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^^^You guys just don't get it.

Some people have some loyalty, and they're not going to drop that loyalty just because mods or other members tell them to. Good for them, they're not sheep.:up: :up: :up:

Some people liked the guy. Do you guys not understand this???

"Well, he used the term faggot!!"

Well, he's banned now for it.

Let guys talk about him, he was a friend and a mentor to some here.

Your ongoing attempts to convince other members how they should feel about PHM is only going to make it worse. And cause posters to defend him, like I'm doing now.
 

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WOW back in the day Francisco D'anconia was my mentor, and now Playher Man is the new site mentor? How things have changed. Sosuave is nothing like it used to be.
 

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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