MountainSlide
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Where's are some good spots to take a woman on a second date, other than bar?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Good spot for a second date?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MountainSlide
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Went with the art gallery, worked like a charm.
You don't have to plan much, just do something active or that is different. I have taken second dates to roller derby, galleries with weird ass exhibitions (weirder the better), botanical gardens, farmer's markets. My old standby is a walkabout with people-watching and window shopping and then a drink and shared appetizer at a trendy, expensive restaurant. They will let you sit at the bar, which is where you want to be anyway, without reservations, and if you are good with bartenders, you will be "sampling" wine for free. Get to know bartenders at trendy restaurants, they will get you laid guaranteed, well worth the tips you should pay them. Spend 20% on the women you are dating, 80% on tips for bartenders and restaurant staff. There's nothing better than having the staff at the hot restaurant know you by name... even if you hardly ever eat a full meal there.