"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good reconnection text

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Long story short... was seeing a few different girls, one really stood out and we had a good connection, she's fit, makes her own money, and is witty. I ended up choosing the younger big boobed one and dated her for the past 5 months. Just ended it with her for a long list that is irrelevant here. My question is after 5 months I have no clue if girl number one is dating anyone or maybe completely put off with me for just going ghost after telling her when she asked me out that I was covered up and would text her when I could see daylight...

I'm trying to think of something witty and cute to see if there is any interest left on her end. Any help on what to say in this first text?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Shoot her a simple text that recalls a good time you had and say you hope she's doing well. Give her some time to respond. If she responds, ask her out. If she doesn't, you know the rest.
 
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HB8!! I need some mischief, this responsible adult stuff is exhausting. Ya up for dinner and drinks Thursday at way cool food and drink spot?

Less than a min. later.... I get the very excited response and boom just like that I'm back up at bat with her for Thur. she gets extra points for not putting me through any sh1t test...

Thanks for the input guys
 
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Clooney4life said:
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HB8!! I need some mischief, this responsible adult stuff is exhausting. Ya up for dinner and drinks Thursday at way cool food and drink spot?

Less than a min. later.... I get the very excited response and boom just like that I'm back up at bat with her for Thur. she gets extra points for not putting me through any sh1t test...

Thanks for the input guys
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Nice. That's how its done. :yes:
 
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I stole this one from Jeffy from RSD: "I feel like we are growing apart."

Depending on the girl, you can also add a ";)" or ":p" emoticon. It's worked pretty well for me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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