"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Long story short... was seeing a few different girls, one really stood out and we had a good connection, she's fit, makes her own money, and is witty. I ended up choosing the younger big boobed one and dated her for the past 5 months. Just ended it with her for a long list that is irrelevant here. My question is after 5 months I have no clue if girl number one is dating anyone or maybe completely put off with me for just going ghost after telling her when she asked me out that I was covered up and would text her when I could see daylight...

I'm trying to think of something witty and cute to see if there is any interest left on her end. Any help on what to say in this first text?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Shoot her a simple text that recalls a good time you had and say you hope she's doing well. Give her some time to respond. If she responds, ask her out. If she doesn't, you know the rest.
 

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HB8!! I need some mischief, this responsible adult stuff is exhausting. Ya up for dinner and drinks Thursday at way cool food and drink spot?

Less than a min. later.... I get the very excited response and boom just like that I'm back up at bat with her for Thur. she gets extra points for not putting me through any sh1t test...

Thanks for the input guys
 

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Clooney4life said:
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HB8!! I need some mischief, this responsible adult stuff is exhausting. Ya up for dinner and drinks Thursday at way cool food and drink spot?

Less than a min. later.... I get the very excited response and boom just like that I'm back up at bat with her for Thur. she gets extra points for not putting me through any sh1t test...

Thanks for the input guys
Nice. That's how its done. :yes:
 

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I stole this one from Jeffy from RSD: "I feel like we are growing apart."

Depending on the girl, you can also add a ";)" or ":p" emoticon. It's worked pretty well for me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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