"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Good date or bad date?

SteveBlaine

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I had a date last night. She ordered two whiskeys. I ordered water and then later a beer..
We talked for about two hours and flirted. Then I ended the date.
She ended up paying for my drinks.. lol. Never had a woman pay for my drinks and I called her out and asked her why she bought my drinks? I said "I am a man I don't need a woman paying for my drink." Then afterwards we walked to our cars. I pulled her in and we pecked kissed and hugged. She was nervous. She said well if you are interested you have my number. I sent her a message this morning. She blew me off.

Not sure why women do that? lol. I am guessing shes a control freak?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you mean she replied to your text and blew you off? Or simply didn't reply?

How do you know she's not busy or working or otherwise occupied? Maybe she doesn't want to seem too eager or she wants to gauge your IL ? Did she text you yet?
 

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Yes she texted me. She's cool. I jumped the gun. So far everything is good.
 

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Yes she texted me. She's cool. I jumped the gun. So far everything is good.
Chill out dude. Play it cool or this is going to end faster than the 100 meter dash.

The only thing you need to do at this point is schedule the next date. Try to eliminate all texting chit chat unless she initiates it. Even then, keep it short and sweet and save it for the next date.
 

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Chill out dude. Play it cool or this is going to end faster than the 100 meter dash.

The only thing you need to do at this point is schedule the next date. Try to eliminate all texting chit chat unless she initiates it. Even then, keep it short and sweet and save it for the next date.
And don't see her more than once a week! If she texts, reply but no drawn out convos
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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