Haven't approached girls and finally going to take the risk going to the mall just to approach girls and Im scared as ****. Know the benefits for doing this is buiding social skills and confidence which is what i need. Following tim's advice with having something on your mind and don't scan for chicks, but i feel its kinda hard to do that if u don't approach. All i kno that its gonna take me 10 hours to approach at the mall, ill be fine with dat cause i need to get experience. What do you guys do when approaching girls at the mall cause im going to the mall alone tomorrow, which bothers me also, and have no money. Also how did you guys get to do your first approaches at the mall. Need some advice and tips please!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Going to the mall to approach what to expect?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Don't go there expecting results. Just go there and strike up conversations when you feel it's good. Don't start the conversation off like "Hi, my name is..." because you'll come across as a salesman. Notice what they're wearing, what shop they're coming out of, what bags they're carrying, or anything situational.
How old are you?
How old are you?
Expect to not be as confident as you are right now sitting at home, because when approaching faces you in the face you might find yourself making excuses to yourself. That said, stick to places like bookstores and try to look like you have a purpose other than looking for girls.
I just turned 18, im shy and at my age prom is jus around the corner and need to fix this problem once and for all...im jus using openers that i got in the FN program, like "hey I was going ______ but i would kill myself if i got over there, and didn't come talk to u...hey watsup Im _____ or hey i thought you were adorable i jus had to meet you im ____. People are recommending me to opinion openers but im just going to be direct.thewarrior said:Don't go there expecting results. Just go there and strike up conversations when you feel it's good. Don't start the conversation off like "Hi, my name is..." because you'll come across as a salesman. Notice what they're wearing, what shop they're coming out of, what bags they're carrying, or anything situational.
How old are you?
Good luck. And i really mean this. you will need a lot of balls to do direct approaches. im sure the element of fear is not in your rehearsed lines right now. But when you see the target walking by, you will understand why opinion openers are so much better.Jamal said:I just turned 18, im shy and at my age prom is jus around the corner and need to fix this problem once and for all...im jus using openers that i got in the FN program, like "hey I was going ______ but i would kill myself if i got over there, and didn't come talk to u...hey watsup Im _____ or hey i thought you were adorable i jus had to meet you im ____. People are recommending me to opinion openers but im just going to be direct.
If you have the will power to even make the move.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.