Haven't approached girls and finally going to take the risk going to the mall just to approach girls and Im scared as ****. Know the benefits for doing this is buiding social skills and confidence which is what i need. Following tim's advice with having something on your mind and don't scan for chicks, but i feel its kinda hard to do that if u don't approach. All i kno that its gonna take me 10 hours to approach at the mall, ill be fine with dat cause i need to get experience. What do you guys do when approaching girls at the mall cause im going to the mall alone tomorrow, which bothers me also, and have no money. Also how did you guys get to do your first approaches at the mall. Need some advice and tips please!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Going to the mall to approach what to expect?
- Thread starter Jamal
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
thewarrior
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Don't go there expecting results. Just go there and strike up conversations when you feel it's good. Don't start the conversation off like "Hi, my name is..." because you'll come across as a salesman. Notice what they're wearing, what shop they're coming out of, what bags they're carrying, or anything situational.
How old are you?
How old are you?
Expect to not be as confident as you are right now sitting at home, because when approaching faces you in the face you might find yourself making excuses to yourself. That said, stick to places like bookstores and try to look like you have a purpose other than looking for girls.
I just turned 18, im shy and at my age prom is jus around the corner and need to fix this problem once and for all...im jus using openers that i got in the FN program, like "hey I was going ______ but i would kill myself if i got over there, and didn't come talk to u...hey watsup Im _____ or hey i thought you were adorable i jus had to meet you im ____. People are recommending me to opinion openers but im just going to be direct.thewarrior said:Don't go there expecting results. Just go there and strike up conversations when you feel it's good. Don't start the conversation off like "Hi, my name is..." because you'll come across as a salesman. Notice what they're wearing, what shop they're coming out of, what bags they're carrying, or anything situational.
How old are you?
Good luck. And i really mean this. you will need a lot of balls to do direct approaches. im sure the element of fear is not in your rehearsed lines right now. But when you see the target walking by, you will understand why opinion openers are so much better.Jamal said:I just turned 18, im shy and at my age prom is jus around the corner and need to fix this problem once and for all...im jus using openers that i got in the FN program, like "hey I was going ______ but i would kill myself if i got over there, and didn't come talk to u...hey watsup Im _____ or hey i thought you were adorable i jus had to meet you im ____. People are recommending me to opinion openers but im just going to be direct.
If you have the will power to even make the move.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.