Going to the mall to approach what to expect?

[Jamal]

Haven't approached girls and finally going to take the risk going to the mall just to approach girls and Im scared as ****. Know the benefits for doing this is buiding social skills and confidence which is what i need. Following tim's advice with having something on your mind and don't scan for chicks, but i feel its kinda hard to do that if u don't approach. All i kno that its gonna take me 10 hours to approach at the mall, ill be fine with dat cause i need to get experience. What do you guys do when approaching girls at the mall cause im going to the mall alone tomorrow, which bothers me also, and have no money. Also how did you guys get to do your first approaches at the mall. Need some advice and tips please!

 

[thewarrior]

Don't go there expecting results. Just go there and strike up conversations when you feel it's good. Don't start the conversation off like "Hi, my name is..." because you'll come across as a salesman. Notice what they're wearing, what shop they're coming out of, what bags they're carrying, or anything situational.

How old are you?

 

[Mars]

Expect to not be as confident as you are right now sitting at home, because when approaching faces you in the face you might find yourself making excuses to yourself. That said, stick to places like bookstores and try to look like you have a purpose other than looking for girls.

 

[Jamal]

Don't go there expecting results. Just go there and strike up conversations when you feel it's good. Don't start the conversation off like "Hi, my name is..." because you'll come across as a salesman. Notice what they're wearing, what shop they're coming out of, what bags they're carrying, or anything situational.

How old are you?

I just turned 18, im shy and at my age prom is jus around the corner and need to fix this problem once and for all...im jus using openers that i got in the FN program, like "hey I was going ______ but i would kill myself if i got over there, and didn't come talk to u...hey watsup Im _____ or hey i thought you were adorable i jus had to meet you im ____. People are recommending me to opinion openers but im just going to be direct.

 

[r0cky]

I just turned 18, im shy and at my age prom is jus around the corner and need to fix this problem once and for all...im jus using openers that i got in the FN program, like "hey I was going ______ but i would kill myself if i got over there, and didn't come talk to u...hey watsup Im _____ or hey i thought you were adorable i jus had to meet you im ____. People are recommending me to opinion openers but im just going to be direct.

Good luck. And i really mean this. you will need a lot of balls to do direct approaches. im sure the element of fear is not in your rehearsed lines right now. But when you see the target walking by, you will understand why opinion openers are so much better.
If you have the will power to even make the move.

 

[Mars]

Hey give us an update! How did the mall go?

 

[Jamal]

horrible... went to the mall and didn't have balls to approach, it made it worse since I went alone...just feel down right now