Haven't approached girls and finally going to take the risk going to the mall just to approach girls and Im scared as ****. Know the benefits for doing this is buiding social skills and confidence which is what i need. Following tim's advice with having something on your mind and don't scan for chicks, but i feel its kinda hard to do that if u don't approach. All i kno that its gonna take me 10 hours to approach at the mall, ill be fine with dat cause i need to get experience. What do you guys do when approaching girls at the mall cause im going to the mall alone tomorrow, which bothers me also, and have no money. Also how did you guys get to do your first approaches at the mall. Need some advice and tips please!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Going to the mall to approach what to expect?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Don't go there expecting results. Just go there and strike up conversations when you feel it's good. Don't start the conversation off like "Hi, my name is..." because you'll come across as a salesman. Notice what they're wearing, what shop they're coming out of, what bags they're carrying, or anything situational.
How old are you?
How old are you?
Expect to not be as confident as you are right now sitting at home, because when approaching faces you in the face you might find yourself making excuses to yourself. That said, stick to places like bookstores and try to look like you have a purpose other than looking for girls.
I just turned 18, im shy and at my age prom is jus around the corner and need to fix this problem once and for all...im jus using openers that i got in the FN program, like "hey I was going ______ but i would kill myself if i got over there, and didn't come talk to u...hey watsup Im _____ or hey i thought you were adorable i jus had to meet you im ____. People are recommending me to opinion openers but im just going to be direct.thewarrior said:Don't go there expecting results. Just go there and strike up conversations when you feel it's good. Don't start the conversation off like "Hi, my name is..." because you'll come across as a salesman. Notice what they're wearing, what shop they're coming out of, what bags they're carrying, or anything situational.
How old are you?
Good luck. And i really mean this. you will need a lot of balls to do direct approaches. im sure the element of fear is not in your rehearsed lines right now. But when you see the target walking by, you will understand why opinion openers are so much better.Jamal said:I just turned 18, im shy and at my age prom is jus around the corner and need to fix this problem once and for all...im jus using openers that i got in the FN program, like "hey I was going ______ but i would kill myself if i got over there, and didn't come talk to u...hey watsup Im _____ or hey i thought you were adorable i jus had to meet you im ____. People are recommending me to opinion openers but im just going to be direct.
If you have the will power to even make the move.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.