"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Going to a bar alone.

Caldus

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So I've never really gone to a bar alone before. Maybe this will encourage me to pick up a girl tonight. Anybody have good tips for this sort of thing?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJ_in_making

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Bro, I'm sure there are tips all over the place for this. Search next time.

Go in, and walk straight up to a group of guys and start talking to them like they're friends you're cool w/ them or something, but don't follow their mannerisms (holding a beer to your chest and looking around) make sure you're having fun wherever you're at and you're not concerned w/ whatever else is going on. You can do this a few more times and then when you have social value go talk to some girls. Oh, and try to smile.
 

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Caldus said:
So I've never really gone to a bar alone before. Maybe this will encourage me to pick up a girl tonight. Anybody have good tips for this sort of thing?
If you've got the skills, then you'll have potential for more action when going alone but you gotta be damn good. I've been going alone lately as a challenge to myself (actually, it's because my friends are pussies and won't go) and I've have some very good fortune. I've found though that you MUST go in w/ a positive attitude and keep smiling. You don't wanna look like a lonely creep. You've gotta come across as someone who is so indipendent and confident that you don't need anyone else to have a good time.
 

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I end up just finding people I know already there and they have new people for you to meet in the process. It really does build over time the more you go to the same bar alone. It seems like each time I go I run into somebody I havent seen since HS and they got more girls to meet right there with them. This can be especially good for people from small towns like me.
 
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Guess I'm too late, but anyway.

If you don't have your attraction together, you can walk in with 50 guys and still not have success. I made posts on this, you can read them. From readng your thread I don't think you have your attraction together so no matter if you went alone or with Justin Timberlake you still wouldn't get no action.

But for the record, when you are sarging you do wanna go alone. When your attraction thing is on point, your buddies just get in the way. Unless you find a pal who has the same mindset where you both and make bets or pick up a gang of chicks and make a porno in a hotel room (no, I am not speaking from experience, lol), then go alone.

Remember this quote, "It's better to get there alone, then not to get there at all." And hanging with the wrong crowd just to be with a "crowd" is dumb. You don't need the crowd for anything, if anything, the crowd is nothing but a distraction.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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do not go to the bar alone unless you already are experienced, go to the bar with the intent of having fun with your friends and you will pick up some chicks
i am drunk now so if i sound wierd sorry
 

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+1, go out with friends. I find it tough to go out the bars alone. If you can do it, then more power to you. But having a base group of friend shelps with social proof and just makes the evening more enjoyable.
I'm drunk too, so if this sounds wierd, then too bad
 

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"Find a friend who wants to get a mate out there too. Its this friend is a girl, great. You will look even cooler. But if worse comes to worse, go out alone. When I went to a new city to live, I had to go out alone. There is NOTHING WRONG with this. This isn't a loser thing, this is in fact a ****ING COOL thing. A guy confident enough to get out alone and stir up some trouble is cool. While out there you will make some guy friends who hold"
- Mystery
 

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go alone,look cool and don't forget to smile- u don't need anything else.
 

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Its saturday night here and none of my friends are keen to go out, (girlfriend hangs or having quality time with their hands) and im keen to go out.
I have the confidence to go out by myself but i have never done it before.

But if a girl/s ask you where your friends are or who you are with im not sure what i will say?

Any ideas?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well I went last night. It was alright. Just talked to a few guys and then later tried to hit on a few girls. I was just sort of doing it to practice. Now if only I knew what to say to these women, then I could really get better at this. I can never think of what to say to them.
 

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Go alone. Don't talk to guys, see a lonely girl, go in for the kill. Groups are hard, chicks don't want to seem easy so they'll give ya a hard time. That, or i suck at engaging groups, which is perhaps the case...but i've had massive success with the alone ones.
 

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good luck finding a decent girl alone at a bar
 

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Turncoat said:
That, or i suck at engaging groups, which is perhaps the case...but i've had massive success with the alone ones.
If thats the case then you should give the Mystery Method a shot. Its bread and butter is about how to approach and disarm a group so you can eventually isolate your target.
 
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