Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Going to a bar alone.

Caldus

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So I've never really gone to a bar alone before. Maybe this will encourage me to pick up a girl tonight. Anybody have good tips for this sort of thing?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bro, I'm sure there are tips all over the place for this. Search next time.

Go in, and walk straight up to a group of guys and start talking to them like they're friends you're cool w/ them or something, but don't follow their mannerisms (holding a beer to your chest and looking around) make sure you're having fun wherever you're at and you're not concerned w/ whatever else is going on. You can do this a few more times and then when you have social value go talk to some girls. Oh, and try to smile.
 

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Caldus said:
So I've never really gone to a bar alone before. Maybe this will encourage me to pick up a girl tonight. Anybody have good tips for this sort of thing?
If you've got the skills, then you'll have potential for more action when going alone but you gotta be damn good. I've been going alone lately as a challenge to myself (actually, it's because my friends are pussies and won't go) and I've have some very good fortune. I've found though that you MUST go in w/ a positive attitude and keep smiling. You don't wanna look like a lonely creep. You've gotta come across as someone who is so indipendent and confident that you don't need anyone else to have a good time.
 

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I end up just finding people I know already there and they have new people for you to meet in the process. It really does build over time the more you go to the same bar alone. It seems like each time I go I run into somebody I havent seen since HS and they got more girls to meet right there with them. This can be especially good for people from small towns like me.
 
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Guess I'm too late, but anyway.

If you don't have your attraction together, you can walk in with 50 guys and still not have success. I made posts on this, you can read them. From readng your thread I don't think you have your attraction together so no matter if you went alone or with Justin Timberlake you still wouldn't get no action.

But for the record, when you are sarging you do wanna go alone. When your attraction thing is on point, your buddies just get in the way. Unless you find a pal who has the same mindset where you both and make bets or pick up a gang of chicks and make a porno in a hotel room (no, I am not speaking from experience, lol), then go alone.

Remember this quote, "It's better to get there alone, then not to get there at all." And hanging with the wrong crowd just to be with a "crowd" is dumb. You don't need the crowd for anything, if anything, the crowd is nothing but a distraction.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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do not go to the bar alone unless you already are experienced, go to the bar with the intent of having fun with your friends and you will pick up some chicks
i am drunk now so if i sound wierd sorry
 

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+1, go out with friends. I find it tough to go out the bars alone. If you can do it, then more power to you. But having a base group of friend shelps with social proof and just makes the evening more enjoyable.
I'm drunk too, so if this sounds wierd, then too bad
 

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"Find a friend who wants to get a mate out there too. Its this friend is a girl, great. You will look even cooler. But if worse comes to worse, go out alone. When I went to a new city to live, I had to go out alone. There is NOTHING WRONG with this. This isn't a loser thing, this is in fact a ****ING COOL thing. A guy confident enough to get out alone and stir up some trouble is cool. While out there you will make some guy friends who hold"
- Mystery
 

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go alone,look cool and don't forget to smile- u don't need anything else.
 

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Its saturday night here and none of my friends are keen to go out, (girlfriend hangs or having quality time with their hands) and im keen to go out.
I have the confidence to go out by myself but i have never done it before.

But if a girl/s ask you where your friends are or who you are with im not sure what i will say?

Any ideas?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well I went last night. It was alright. Just talked to a few guys and then later tried to hit on a few girls. I was just sort of doing it to practice. Now if only I knew what to say to these women, then I could really get better at this. I can never think of what to say to them.
 

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Go alone. Don't talk to guys, see a lonely girl, go in for the kill. Groups are hard, chicks don't want to seem easy so they'll give ya a hard time. That, or i suck at engaging groups, which is perhaps the case...but i've had massive success with the alone ones.
 

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good luck finding a decent girl alone at a bar
 

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Turncoat said:
That, or i suck at engaging groups, which is perhaps the case...but i've had massive success with the alone ones.
If thats the case then you should give the Mystery Method a shot. Its bread and butter is about how to approach and disarm a group so you can eventually isolate your target.
 
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