"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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going out with her friends on a first date

rocco

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are there any special technique, no-no's, types of strategies i should know before going in?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Be prepared to perform for her friends, she's more than likely going to turn to them for their opinion of you.
 
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Well, we know how much women love to run their mouths about anything..so get their opinions on stuff...and make sure you let them know you love details.

peace
 

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Charm their friends, lead them. Guy friends, if there is alpha male, either out alpha him or become his buddy. Your date will be leading her friends, and then when they are busy talking to her.
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
Charm their friends, lead them. Guy friends, if there is alpha male, either out alpha him or become his buddy. Your date will be leading her friends, and then when they are busy talking to her.
I'd also occasionally steer them into talking about the girl having them share funny stories involving her. It could diffuse any uneasy feelings and also bring you into the fold of the group by focusing on a common interest, her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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*bump*

i recently saw on tv the movie, "meet the parents" and i can really relate with what the main character guy was going thru in regards to the whole, meeting her social circle thing..
 

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The way I diffused my most recent situation was to out alpha the c0ckblocking male friends, and butter up the female ones. It seemed to work well because I heard I was "loved" by all.

Edit: I should note that this wasn't me and said womans first date, it was date #5.
 
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The first "No-No" I see is going out with her friends. This site has always preached that you should isolate the girl, can't do that in a crowd. You shouldn't have to work hard to impress her friends when all you really want to do is game HER.
 

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Yes, Watertiger, you're right. This one is LTR material, so I had to adjust my game a slight bit differently.
 
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rocco said:
Going out with her friends on a first date
Are there any special technique, no-no's, types of strategies i should know before going in?
Yes there is!! Never go out with her friends on a first date!!!! :rolleyes:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She's taking you with her friends on your "first-date"?

You're now her new "girl-friend". Escape while you can!
 

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yeah but i heard girls sometimes want to have a friend there, as "backup", with guys they have just met. this isnt common? i dont think it is such a big deal,imo
 

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well if her friends are going to this "first date" then it is not a date, you are hanging out with her and her friends. This is a good thing...it means you don't have to pay and still have an opportunity to seduce her.
 

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more the marrier now u get to pick who u like
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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