"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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going out with her friends on a first date

rocco

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are there any special technique, no-no's, types of strategies i should know before going in?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Be prepared to perform for her friends, she's more than likely going to turn to them for their opinion of you.
 
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Well, we know how much women love to run their mouths about anything..so get their opinions on stuff...and make sure you let them know you love details.

peace
 

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Charm their friends, lead them. Guy friends, if there is alpha male, either out alpha him or become his buddy. Your date will be leading her friends, and then when they are busy talking to her.
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
Charm their friends, lead them. Guy friends, if there is alpha male, either out alpha him or become his buddy. Your date will be leading her friends, and then when they are busy talking to her.
I'd also occasionally steer them into talking about the girl having them share funny stories involving her. It could diffuse any uneasy feelings and also bring you into the fold of the group by focusing on a common interest, her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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*bump*

i recently saw on tv the movie, "meet the parents" and i can really relate with what the main character guy was going thru in regards to the whole, meeting her social circle thing..
 

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The way I diffused my most recent situation was to out alpha the c0ckblocking male friends, and butter up the female ones. It seemed to work well because I heard I was "loved" by all.

Edit: I should note that this wasn't me and said womans first date, it was date #5.
 
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The first "No-No" I see is going out with her friends. This site has always preached that you should isolate the girl, can't do that in a crowd. You shouldn't have to work hard to impress her friends when all you really want to do is game HER.
 

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Yes, Watertiger, you're right. This one is LTR material, so I had to adjust my game a slight bit differently.
 
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rocco said:
Going out with her friends on a first date
Are there any special technique, no-no's, types of strategies i should know before going in?
Yes there is!! Never go out with her friends on a first date!!!! :rolleyes:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She's taking you with her friends on your "first-date"?

You're now her new "girl-friend". Escape while you can!
 

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yeah but i heard girls sometimes want to have a friend there, as "backup", with guys they have just met. this isnt common? i dont think it is such a big deal,imo
 

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well if her friends are going to this "first date" then it is not a date, you are hanging out with her and her friends. This is a good thing...it means you don't have to pay and still have an opportunity to seduce her.
 

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more the marrier now u get to pick who u like
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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