"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Going out solo, what is your take on this?

sangheilios

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Back in September I was going out solo on a weekly basis and felt that it was doing a lot for my approach skills and overall confidence. I only got totally blown off once and actually found the women were very open with me. However, the one thing I did notice was that I'd approach a pair of women, one of them would be actively engaging with me and definitely pursuing the conversation with me, so at least some interest, but then the other girl would pull her friend away after 5 or 10 minutes. I've found this significantly easier with someone else with me but it isn't always an option since a lot of times my friends don't want to go out.

I was considering rolling solo tonight but I'm tired and not really feeling it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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mrgoodstuff

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Back in September I was going out solo on a weekly basis and felt that it was doing a lot for my approach skills and overall confidence. I only got totally blown off once and actually found the women were very open with me. However, the one thing I did notice was that I'd approach a pair of women, one of them would be actively engaging with me and definitely pursuing the conversation with me, so at least some interest, but then the other girl would pull her friend away after 5 or 10 minutes. I've found this significantly easier with someone else with me but it isn't always an option since a lot of times my friends don't want to go out.

I was considering rolling solo tonight but I'm tired and not really feeling it.
Solo is easier if your cool with security, management, wait staff and other players in the environment.
 

djthiago1

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I usually go out with friends, but i approach solo, they're just regular guys who don't have the knowledge we have here, so .. =/
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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