"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Going clubbin for first time, anything should know or tips ?
- Thread starter Kravy
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
sharpshooter
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2)also, make sure you make some solid eye contact before trying to start up a convo, i made that mistake. Because clubs loud and if you just put your hand to a girls ear and scream in...chances are it won't do you any good lol
and... just have a good time
What if you don't have anyone to go with you? I've always feared of going to a club alone, but all my friends are usually couples or so geeky that they would never go to "such a place," so I'm kinda hesitant to go alone the first time.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
and can be brilliant though, cause you dont have friends to worry about or anything else - and it makes you talk to other people cause theres no one else you know around
yo if its your first time going to the clubs. go out with your friends to get drunk, listen to a loud soundsystem (whatever style of music you and your friends like and enjoy their company). If you see a hot chick at the club, then go try to hit on her. if not, it doesn't matter cause you are having fun.
The whole problem with a lot of clubs these days is people are out to get b!tches and not to have fun. There a bunch of dudes gawking by the side of the bar trying to make eye contact ie glaring with girls that they come off super AFC. trust me, just go out and have fun (yes, maybe dance) and you will get more girls than standing at the bar like hawks, nahwhatimean?
peace, snoobs