"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Going back on meds! :/

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Im going back to my bupropion after some months without it. I was doing great until the beginning of this year and some stuffs hit me.

That crazy girl situation. Had some situations where I met my parents and it messed with my emotions.

Ive tried a drug called vortioxetine that doc said it was first line treatment for anxiety and depression but on day 3 I had some heavy nausea and could not continue.

So probably Im going back to bupropion and maybe if there is another good one for anxiety.

Ive gained some weight. I was 104kg and after that mess I went to 113,7 kg.

Im sad to see that Im still weak against my narcissist parents. Even on social situations my dad spill sh1t words over me and it affects me. Its like he can get in my mind and weak points.

Hope I can get back on track quick. Im feeling very sad with all that and just want to vent about it somewhere. :/
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Im going back to my bupropion after some months without it. I was doing great until the beginning of this year and some stuffs hit me.

That crazy girl situation. Had some situations where I met my parents and it messed with my emotions.

Ive tried a drug called vortioxetine that doc said it was first line treatment for anxiety and depression but on day 3 I had some heavy nausea and could not continue.

So probably Im going back to bupropion and maybe if there is another good one for anxiety.

Ive gained some weight. I was 104kg and after that mess I went to 113,7 kg.

Im sad to see that Im still weak against my narcissist parents. Even on social situations my dad spill sh1t words over me and it affects me. Its like he can get in my mind and weak points.

Hope I can get back on track quick. Im feeling very sad with all that and just want to vent about it somewhere. :/
Meds are only beneficial when accompanied by solid psychotherapy, bibiliotherapy included. I'll start you off

 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Have you tried nootropics? I am a firm believer now.
Tried some but I wasnt so effective.

Just went back from doc today and was diagnosed with major depressive disorder. Ive tried so many natural stuffs but it seems I actually need a drug to help balance it.

Im going back to bupropion which was a life saver when I went no contact with my abusive parents.

And also she prescribed fluoxetine aka prozac to help with some impulsive sexual behaviors and anxiety.
 

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Start running. Aim for 20-30 minutes/2-3 miles every other day.
You need that surge of energy that pulls from the back of your brain. Running sends blood flowing throughout body good for tissue, nervous system and cardiac regulation, Endorphins released, Other neurotransmitters released, like dopamine, Psychological aspect: feeling proud, accomplished, working towards and overcoming a challenge, Growth factors released; bdnf, Acute stress that is good for you, helps body adapt to "real" stressors later.

Being outdoors in nature and the list goes on.

At the end of the day, I think how YOU feel from a psychological standpoint from running is what makes the biggest difference and the runner's high just compounds that.

Running triggers a process called adult hippocampal neurogenesis. Basically your brain starts creating new neurons which act as an antidepressant. Most antidepressants hit this pathway as well just from a different mechanism.

Everytime I finish a run I feel like
somehow I flush out the bad chemicals in the body and that includes dreaded black death thoughts too. Then I hit the pull ups, chins, dips and push ups. I wake up everyday more with more clean energy and a desire to live to fight another day.


I think that depression is one of the body's natural defense methods.

We struggle valiantly every day with that invisible monster, a herculean task to be sure. But who's to say that what we view as "normal" don't struggle with their own set of demons? Because of our chemical imbalances we cannot just dismiss what plagues us, it follows us around like a huge storm cloud, unfortunately it is the nature of our illness.

I believe that your body puts out chemicals that make you depressed and brings all of your issues to the spot light.

When we are depressed, we are hyper-aware of everything around us that makes us unhappy.

Those feelings don't go away until we tend to the things that make us unhappy go away. As in start fvcking moving. It's our unconscious defense method to force us to tend to what makes us unhappy.

I know the feeling because I been there hardcore for the last 2 years. I experienced death by a thousand cuts. Now, I just see it as part of the skin-thickening-process we as growing men walking the darkside go through.

Wish you grit and resilience, man.
 
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This doesn’t sound like you wrote it, did you copy and paste it?
 

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Try getting reiki or healing touch directly over your heart OP. It will open up your heart chakra. Sh1t works, speaking from experience.

Random link I found and excerpt below:


"The heart chakra is the source of our ability to love unconditionally, emanate compassion and harmony, and create a safe place for healing"
 

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Im going back to my bupropion after some months without it. I was doing great until the beginning of this year and some stuffs hit me.

That crazy girl situation. Had some situations where I met my parents and it messed with my emotions.

Ive tried a drug called vortioxetine that doc said it was first line treatment for anxiety and depression but on day 3 I had some heavy nausea and could not continue.

So probably Im going back to bupropion and maybe if there is another good one for anxiety.

Ive gained some weight. I was 104kg and after that mess I went to 113,7 kg.

Im sad to see that Im still weak against my narcissist parents. Even on social situations my dad spill sh1t words over me and it affects me. Its like he can get in my mind and weak points.

Hope I can get back on track quick. Im feeling very sad with all that and just want to vent about it somewhere. :/
Always listen to medical advice. Have you tried marijuana? If it's legal in Brazil, it may be worth a shot. Sativa strains are said to be the best to calm anxiety and depression. Very well tolerated, but always check with your doctor FIRST before trying anything. As always, this is not medical advise, just something I would try if it was me and I had my doctors FULL SUPPORT.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I trust you’re suicidal or having problems getting out of bed, if not, no doctor has any business prescribing you with powerful mind altering drugs.

Unless they’re maximising profits, that is.
Wellbutrin is a pretty mild antidepressant and is actually an atypical antidepressant which tend to be much much safer and more based than SSRIs, the TCAs in particular are goated. Wellbutrin even has use as a smoking cessation aid.

OP don't listen to anyone else who knows nothing about psychopharmacology. Take it for a few weeks and just pay attention to how you feel. If you react positively, keep taking it, if not, stop. It's pretty simple. It shouldn't even take that long to notice how its effecting you, the idea of a drug needing to "build in your system" before you can feel it is mostly BS, most drugs can reach steady state peak plasma concentrations in like a week anyway.

All that said depending on your symptoms and age, TRT ain't a bad option either.
 
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I clocked in at 595 a couple months back. Never checked free T, though. My sleep was sh1t, my diet was ok, no exercise of any kind and I wasn’t getting laid. I’m trying to atleast get to 700s with some disciplined exercise, better diet, pvssy acquisition and good sleep. I have noticed a positive phsycological surge of whatever it was when I was having sex regularly with a beautiful chick. My T levels seem to stagnate a bit when I’m not getting pvssy. There may be some correlation to that.
I will probably hop on T when im 40.

I been taking low dose naltrexone for some mental hurdles I got. Low dose naltrexone acts to subtly increase the production of endorphins, leading to a boost in overall well-being (mood) while also initiating a cascade of anti-inflammatory responses. It modulates your immune system. LDN is also proposed to work for depression. My sleep is much better since I started taking it every night. I wake up refreshed.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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