"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Going back on meds! :/

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Im going back to my bupropion after some months without it. I was doing great until the beginning of this year and some stuffs hit me.

That crazy girl situation. Had some situations where I met my parents and it messed with my emotions.

Ive tried a drug called vortioxetine that doc said it was first line treatment for anxiety and depression but on day 3 I had some heavy nausea and could not continue.

So probably Im going back to bupropion and maybe if there is another good one for anxiety.

Ive gained some weight. I was 104kg and after that mess I went to 113,7 kg.

Im sad to see that Im still weak against my narcissist parents. Even on social situations my dad spill sh1t words over me and it affects me. Its like he can get in my mind and weak points.

Hope I can get back on track quick. Im feeling very sad with all that and just want to vent about it somewhere. :/
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Im going back to my bupropion after some months without it. I was doing great until the beginning of this year and some stuffs hit me.

That crazy girl situation. Had some situations where I met my parents and it messed with my emotions.

Ive tried a drug called vortioxetine that doc said it was first line treatment for anxiety and depression but on day 3 I had some heavy nausea and could not continue.

So probably Im going back to bupropion and maybe if there is another good one for anxiety.

Ive gained some weight. I was 104kg and after that mess I went to 113,7 kg.

Im sad to see that Im still weak against my narcissist parents. Even on social situations my dad spill sh1t words over me and it affects me. Its like he can get in my mind and weak points.

Hope I can get back on track quick. Im feeling very sad with all that and just want to vent about it somewhere. :/
Meds are only beneficial when accompanied by solid psychotherapy, bibiliotherapy included. I'll start you off

 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Have you tried nootropics? I am a firm believer now.
Tried some but I wasnt so effective.

Just went back from doc today and was diagnosed with major depressive disorder. Ive tried so many natural stuffs but it seems I actually need a drug to help balance it.

Im going back to bupropion which was a life saver when I went no contact with my abusive parents.

And also she prescribed fluoxetine aka prozac to help with some impulsive sexual behaviors and anxiety.
 

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Start running. Aim for 20-30 minutes/2-3 miles every other day.
You need that surge of energy that pulls from the back of your brain. Running sends blood flowing throughout body good for tissue, nervous system and cardiac regulation, Endorphins released, Other neurotransmitters released, like dopamine, Psychological aspect: feeling proud, accomplished, working towards and overcoming a challenge, Growth factors released; bdnf, Acute stress that is good for you, helps body adapt to "real" stressors later.

Being outdoors in nature and the list goes on.

At the end of the day, I think how YOU feel from a psychological standpoint from running is what makes the biggest difference and the runner's high just compounds that.

Running triggers a process called adult hippocampal neurogenesis. Basically your brain starts creating new neurons which act as an antidepressant. Most antidepressants hit this pathway as well just from a different mechanism.

Everytime I finish a run I feel like
somehow I flush out the bad chemicals in the body and that includes dreaded black death thoughts too. Then I hit the pull ups, chins, dips and push ups. I wake up everyday more with more clean energy and a desire to live to fight another day.


I think that depression is one of the body's natural defense methods.

We struggle valiantly every day with that invisible monster, a herculean task to be sure. But who's to say that what we view as "normal" don't struggle with their own set of demons? Because of our chemical imbalances we cannot just dismiss what plagues us, it follows us around like a huge storm cloud, unfortunately it is the nature of our illness.

I believe that your body puts out chemicals that make you depressed and brings all of your issues to the spot light.

When we are depressed, we are hyper-aware of everything around us that makes us unhappy.

Those feelings don't go away until we tend to the things that make us unhappy go away. As in start fvcking moving. It's our unconscious defense method to force us to tend to what makes us unhappy.

I know the feeling because I been there hardcore for the last 2 years. I experienced death by a thousand cuts. Now, I just see it as part of the skin-thickening-process we as growing men walking the darkside go through.

Wish you grit and resilience, man.
 
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This doesn’t sound like you wrote it, did you copy and paste it?
 

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Try getting reiki or healing touch directly over your heart OP. It will open up your heart chakra. Sh1t works, speaking from experience.

Random link I found and excerpt below:


"The heart chakra is the source of our ability to love unconditionally, emanate compassion and harmony, and create a safe place for healing"
 

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Im going back to my bupropion after some months without it. I was doing great until the beginning of this year and some stuffs hit me.

That crazy girl situation. Had some situations where I met my parents and it messed with my emotions.

Ive tried a drug called vortioxetine that doc said it was first line treatment for anxiety and depression but on day 3 I had some heavy nausea and could not continue.

So probably Im going back to bupropion and maybe if there is another good one for anxiety.

Ive gained some weight. I was 104kg and after that mess I went to 113,7 kg.

Im sad to see that Im still weak against my narcissist parents. Even on social situations my dad spill sh1t words over me and it affects me. Its like he can get in my mind and weak points.

Hope I can get back on track quick. Im feeling very sad with all that and just want to vent about it somewhere. :/
Always listen to medical advice. Have you tried marijuana? If it's legal in Brazil, it may be worth a shot. Sativa strains are said to be the best to calm anxiety and depression. Very well tolerated, but always check with your doctor FIRST before trying anything. As always, this is not medical advise, just something I would try if it was me and I had my doctors FULL SUPPORT.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I trust you’re suicidal or having problems getting out of bed, if not, no doctor has any business prescribing you with powerful mind altering drugs.

Unless they’re maximising profits, that is.
Wellbutrin is a pretty mild antidepressant and is actually an atypical antidepressant which tend to be much much safer and more based than SSRIs, the TCAs in particular are goated. Wellbutrin even has use as a smoking cessation aid.

OP don't listen to anyone else who knows nothing about psychopharmacology. Take it for a few weeks and just pay attention to how you feel. If you react positively, keep taking it, if not, stop. It's pretty simple. It shouldn't even take that long to notice how its effecting you, the idea of a drug needing to "build in your system" before you can feel it is mostly BS, most drugs can reach steady state peak plasma concentrations in like a week anyway.

All that said depending on your symptoms and age, TRT ain't a bad option either.
 
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I clocked in at 595 a couple months back. Never checked free T, though. My sleep was sh1t, my diet was ok, no exercise of any kind and I wasn’t getting laid. I’m trying to atleast get to 700s with some disciplined exercise, better diet, pvssy acquisition and good sleep. I have noticed a positive phsycological surge of whatever it was when I was having sex regularly with a beautiful chick. My T levels seem to stagnate a bit when I’m not getting pvssy. There may be some correlation to that.
I will probably hop on T when im 40.

I been taking low dose naltrexone for some mental hurdles I got. Low dose naltrexone acts to subtly increase the production of endorphins, leading to a boost in overall well-being (mood) while also initiating a cascade of anti-inflammatory responses. It modulates your immune system. LDN is also proposed to work for depression. My sleep is much better since I started taking it every night. I wake up refreshed.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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