"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Goddamn, I'm weak.

Flabbergasped?

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Under normal circumstances, I would just search for info concerning h&f, but this has been getting freaky.

I'm 6'1'', ~180 lbs.

I've always had long, skinny arms. I did track and soccer, neither of which require extensive arm strength. Hence, I have buff legs and I leg press more than 2x my body weight, yet I bench press about 125.

My problem is that I seem to have gotten weaker as a whole. I started breakdancing in Oct (lifting sporadically, exams and stuff like that has messed with my routine), and I was at the peak of my fitness in Nov. Felt good, and workouts were efficient and beneficial.

I'm on break now, but can't do more than 5 push-ups at a time (I used to do 15 explosively). I don't know if I overtrained, but my upper body strength seems to have faded away, but I'm not sure why.

I'm sure there's a question, but I don't know exactly what to ask. Is there something up with my body? Should I just train harder? Are my muscles atrophying or something? Any ideas are appreciated.

ps. all weights are in lbs
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ryannath

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I'd say lift more. You said yourself that exams got in your way of lifting.
 

Create Reality

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First of all, how old are you?

Second, how is your diet? You could be taking in more simple sugars than is good for you. Have you gained any weight? All the sugars will tire you out faster and you will ultimately be weaker. Eat more protein if you insist on eating junk food, and increase your water intake.

Yes, you should train harder. Train your CNS to use ALL of your muscle. Do this by going balls to the WALL in the gym, with proper form of course.

Without diet info I cant say much. We need to know how you feed the fire. Half of this body battle is food.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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cuzza

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This might sound like a stupid question, but whatever: sure you're doing your pressups right? I can do 50ish in about a minute if I really stretch myself, like I'd be on the floor for 10 minutes after doing it. I'm not particularly strong a tall... Only being able to do 5 pressups seems exceptionally weak really... but then I guess that's the point of your whole post, haha.
 

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Wait, what?
5 pushups?
Somethings wrong.
Quick, to the steroid-threads!
 

Mjazz

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Just join a gym, that really got my motivation higher. Train harder and SMARTER. Sorry to say this, but your muscles are gone, your gonna need to work to get it back. There are no excuses not to work out, going to the gym takes a lot less time than people think. My workout is 30 mins tops, you just need to go high intensity.
 
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