"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Goddamn, I'm weak.

Flabbergasped?

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Under normal circumstances, I would just search for info concerning h&f, but this has been getting freaky.

I'm 6'1'', ~180 lbs.

I've always had long, skinny arms. I did track and soccer, neither of which require extensive arm strength. Hence, I have buff legs and I leg press more than 2x my body weight, yet I bench press about 125.

My problem is that I seem to have gotten weaker as a whole. I started breakdancing in Oct (lifting sporadically, exams and stuff like that has messed with my routine), and I was at the peak of my fitness in Nov. Felt good, and workouts were efficient and beneficial.

I'm on break now, but can't do more than 5 push-ups at a time (I used to do 15 explosively). I don't know if I overtrained, but my upper body strength seems to have faded away, but I'm not sure why.

I'm sure there's a question, but I don't know exactly what to ask. Is there something up with my body? Should I just train harder? Are my muscles atrophying or something? Any ideas are appreciated.

ps. all weights are in lbs
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ryannath

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I'd say lift more. You said yourself that exams got in your way of lifting.
 

Create Reality

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First of all, how old are you?

Second, how is your diet? You could be taking in more simple sugars than is good for you. Have you gained any weight? All the sugars will tire you out faster and you will ultimately be weaker. Eat more protein if you insist on eating junk food, and increase your water intake.

Yes, you should train harder. Train your CNS to use ALL of your muscle. Do this by going balls to the WALL in the gym, with proper form of course.

Without diet info I cant say much. We need to know how you feed the fire. Half of this body battle is food.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cuzza

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This might sound like a stupid question, but whatever: sure you're doing your pressups right? I can do 50ish in about a minute if I really stretch myself, like I'd be on the floor for 10 minutes after doing it. I'm not particularly strong a tall... Only being able to do 5 pressups seems exceptionally weak really... but then I guess that's the point of your whole post, haha.
 

MrS

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Wait, what?
5 pushups?
Somethings wrong.
Quick, to the steroid-threads!
 

Mjazz

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Just join a gym, that really got my motivation higher. Train harder and SMARTER. Sorry to say this, but your muscles are gone, your gonna need to work to get it back. There are no excuses not to work out, going to the gym takes a lot less time than people think. My workout is 30 mins tops, you just need to go high intensity.
 
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