"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Goddamn, I'm weak.

Flabbergasped?

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Under normal circumstances, I would just search for info concerning h&f, but this has been getting freaky.

I'm 6'1'', ~180 lbs.

I've always had long, skinny arms. I did track and soccer, neither of which require extensive arm strength. Hence, I have buff legs and I leg press more than 2x my body weight, yet I bench press about 125.

My problem is that I seem to have gotten weaker as a whole. I started breakdancing in Oct (lifting sporadically, exams and stuff like that has messed with my routine), and I was at the peak of my fitness in Nov. Felt good, and workouts were efficient and beneficial.

I'm on break now, but can't do more than 5 push-ups at a time (I used to do 15 explosively). I don't know if I overtrained, but my upper body strength seems to have faded away, but I'm not sure why.

I'm sure there's a question, but I don't know exactly what to ask. Is there something up with my body? Should I just train harder? Are my muscles atrophying or something? Any ideas are appreciated.

ps. all weights are in lbs
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ryannath

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I'd say lift more. You said yourself that exams got in your way of lifting.
 

Create Reality

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First of all, how old are you?

Second, how is your diet? You could be taking in more simple sugars than is good for you. Have you gained any weight? All the sugars will tire you out faster and you will ultimately be weaker. Eat more protein if you insist on eating junk food, and increase your water intake.

Yes, you should train harder. Train your CNS to use ALL of your muscle. Do this by going balls to the WALL in the gym, with proper form of course.

Without diet info I cant say much. We need to know how you feed the fire. Half of this body battle is food.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cuzza

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This might sound like a stupid question, but whatever: sure you're doing your pressups right? I can do 50ish in about a minute if I really stretch myself, like I'd be on the floor for 10 minutes after doing it. I'm not particularly strong a tall... Only being able to do 5 pressups seems exceptionally weak really... but then I guess that's the point of your whole post, haha.
 

MrS

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Wait, what?
5 pushups?
Somethings wrong.
Quick, to the steroid-threads!
 

Mjazz

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Just join a gym, that really got my motivation higher. Train harder and SMARTER. Sorry to say this, but your muscles are gone, your gonna need to work to get it back. There are no excuses not to work out, going to the gym takes a lot less time than people think. My workout is 30 mins tops, you just need to go high intensity.
 
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