Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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God Damnit I did it again

falcon814

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For the past few months i had been spinning a few plates, 4 to be exact.

Well about 3 weeks ago college came to an end and i was stuck with one girl. She asked for exclusivity and i agreed. Now i feel like i have developed major oneitis for this girl.

I am getting extremely jealous when she talks to other guys when before i could care less and i keep anxiously wait for her texts n reply as soon as i get em.

Even though i try not to show it i think she can sense it cause shes been acting really cold.

At this point i know there is no point of me even contacting her even more so i am just gonna cut off all contacts.

I just can't believe i fell for this again.

Just ventinn guys.

Need to find me some more ho's now.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mikeyb

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Everyone screws up once in a while. Learn the lesson and move on. Happy ho hunting!!
 

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I feel for you bro, and I'm in the same situation. I ditched my 2 other plates and even haven't got a back up girl for my main plate. But, apparently, her best friend is chasing her, and some of the signals she is giving off to him aren't in her advantage.

I think I'm going to warm up a potential girl that appears to have interest in me, is bisexual, and is potentially a good lay. I think it's time to do what I promised in another thread, scream I feel alive when it hurts!
 

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I do have another potential plate but she happens to be my current girls close friend.

I am going to hang out wid my current girl tmro, if things seem cold then i am done and will be contacting her friend.
 

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good sh!t falcon the 1st step to a problem is recognizing you have one most afc dont do this which is an important step into becoming a dj
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DanelMadr

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falcon814 said:
For the past few months i had been spinning a few plates, 4 to be exact.

Well about 3 weeks ago college came to an end and i was stuck with one girl. She asked for exclusivity and i agreed. Now i feel like i have developed major oneitis for this girl.

I am getting extremely jealous when she talks to other guys when before i could care less and i keep anxiously wait for her texts n reply as soon as i get em.

Even though i try not to show it i think she can sense it cause shes been acting really cold.

At this point i know there is no point of me even contacting her even more so i am just gonna cut off all contacts.

I just can't believe i fell for this again.

Just ventinn guys.

Need to find me some more ho's now.
More ho's won't cure your wussiness, it will just hide the symptoms.

Kill the inner wussy instead.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DanelMadr

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falcon814 said:
care to elaborate?
By being jealous/insecure you let your inner wussy to take over.
Inner wussy is that little boy inside you who desperately needs to feel he is loved. You have to kill him. Keep only the good parts of a child - like curiosity, enthusiasm and fun.

Spinning plates is fine when it is meant to ask many girls for numbers and go on date....once you two click it is better to develop that connection - sex is better then ;-)

Spinning plates for reasons of feeding ones ego or distraction is bad. By spinnig plates you give your inner wussy the false sense/distraction that he is loved, because when one girl does not like you, you can be liked by another one. So the inner wussy is silent. Once you don't spin plates the inner wussy comes out. Because it is afraid that one girl might dump you.

You became insecure because deep down in You there is the little boy scared of being alone. Man Up, kill the boy and the fears.
 
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