"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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God Damnit I did it again

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For the past few months i had been spinning a few plates, 4 to be exact.

Well about 3 weeks ago college came to an end and i was stuck with one girl. She asked for exclusivity and i agreed. Now i feel like i have developed major oneitis for this girl.

I am getting extremely jealous when she talks to other guys when before i could care less and i keep anxiously wait for her texts n reply as soon as i get em.

Even though i try not to show it i think she can sense it cause shes been acting really cold.

At this point i know there is no point of me even contacting her even more so i am just gonna cut off all contacts.

I just can't believe i fell for this again.

Just ventinn guys.

Need to find me some more ho's now.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Everyone screws up once in a while. Learn the lesson and move on. Happy ho hunting!!
 

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I feel for you bro, and I'm in the same situation. I ditched my 2 other plates and even haven't got a back up girl for my main plate. But, apparently, her best friend is chasing her, and some of the signals she is giving off to him aren't in her advantage.

I think I'm going to warm up a potential girl that appears to have interest in me, is bisexual, and is potentially a good lay. I think it's time to do what I promised in another thread, scream I feel alive when it hurts!
 

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I do have another potential plate but she happens to be my current girls close friend.

I am going to hang out wid my current girl tmro, if things seem cold then i am done and will be contacting her friend.
 

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good sh!t falcon the 1st step to a problem is recognizing you have one most afc dont do this which is an important step into becoming a dj
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DanelMadr

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falcon814 said:
For the past few months i had been spinning a few plates, 4 to be exact.

Well about 3 weeks ago college came to an end and i was stuck with one girl. She asked for exclusivity and i agreed. Now i feel like i have developed major oneitis for this girl.

I am getting extremely jealous when she talks to other guys when before i could care less and i keep anxiously wait for her texts n reply as soon as i get em.

Even though i try not to show it i think she can sense it cause shes been acting really cold.

At this point i know there is no point of me even contacting her even more so i am just gonna cut off all contacts.

I just can't believe i fell for this again.

Just ventinn guys.

Need to find me some more ho's now.
More ho's won't cure your wussiness, it will just hide the symptoms.

Kill the inner wussy instead.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DanelMadr

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falcon814 said:
care to elaborate?
By being jealous/insecure you let your inner wussy to take over.
Inner wussy is that little boy inside you who desperately needs to feel he is loved. You have to kill him. Keep only the good parts of a child - like curiosity, enthusiasm and fun.

Spinning plates is fine when it is meant to ask many girls for numbers and go on date....once you two click it is better to develop that connection - sex is better then ;-)

Spinning plates for reasons of feeding ones ego or distraction is bad. By spinnig plates you give your inner wussy the false sense/distraction that he is loved, because when one girl does not like you, you can be liked by another one. So the inner wussy is silent. Once you don't spin plates the inner wussy comes out. Because it is afraid that one girl might dump you.

You became insecure because deep down in You there is the little boy scared of being alone. Man Up, kill the boy and the fears.
 
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