"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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God Damnit I did it again

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For the past few months i had been spinning a few plates, 4 to be exact.

Well about 3 weeks ago college came to an end and i was stuck with one girl. She asked for exclusivity and i agreed. Now i feel like i have developed major oneitis for this girl.

I am getting extremely jealous when she talks to other guys when before i could care less and i keep anxiously wait for her texts n reply as soon as i get em.

Even though i try not to show it i think she can sense it cause shes been acting really cold.

At this point i know there is no point of me even contacting her even more so i am just gonna cut off all contacts.

I just can't believe i fell for this again.

Just ventinn guys.

Need to find me some more ho's now.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Everyone screws up once in a while. Learn the lesson and move on. Happy ho hunting!!
 
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I feel for you bro, and I'm in the same situation. I ditched my 2 other plates and even haven't got a back up girl for my main plate. But, apparently, her best friend is chasing her, and some of the signals she is giving off to him aren't in her advantage.

I think I'm going to warm up a potential girl that appears to have interest in me, is bisexual, and is potentially a good lay. I think it's time to do what I promised in another thread, scream I feel alive when it hurts!
 
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I do have another potential plate but she happens to be my current girls close friend.

I am going to hang out wid my current girl tmro, if things seem cold then i am done and will be contacting her friend.
 
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good sh!t falcon the 1st step to a problem is recognizing you have one most afc dont do this which is an important step into becoming a dj
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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falcon814 said:
For the past few months i had been spinning a few plates, 4 to be exact.

Well about 3 weeks ago college came to an end and i was stuck with one girl. She asked for exclusivity and i agreed. Now i feel like i have developed major oneitis for this girl.

I am getting extremely jealous when she talks to other guys when before i could care less and i keep anxiously wait for her texts n reply as soon as i get em.

Even though i try not to show it i think she can sense it cause shes been acting really cold.

At this point i know there is no point of me even contacting her even more so i am just gonna cut off all contacts.

I just can't believe i fell for this again.

Just ventinn guys.

Need to find me some more ho's now.
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More ho's won't cure your wussiness, it will just hide the symptoms.

Kill the inner wussy instead.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DanelMadr

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By being jealous/insecure you let your inner wussy to take over.
Inner wussy is that little boy inside you who desperately needs to feel he is loved. You have to kill him. Keep only the good parts of a child - like curiosity, enthusiasm and fun.

Spinning plates is fine when it is meant to ask many girls for numbers and go on date....once you two click it is better to develop that connection - sex is better then ;-)

Spinning plates for reasons of feeding ones ego or distraction is bad. By spinnig plates you give your inner wussy the false sense/distraction that he is loved, because when one girl does not like you, you can be liked by another one. So the inner wussy is silent. Once you don't spin plates the inner wussy comes out. Because it is afraid that one girl might dump you.

You became insecure because deep down in You there is the little boy scared of being alone. Man Up, kill the boy and the fears.
 
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