"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
edmond
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Simple, Drop them.
Sebastien_Valmont
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Find girls that you can attract and work your way up.
If a girl treats you like a creep it's because you are.
no, not really. i aint ugly and girls find me funny. i was jus wonderin why sum of them start nice than act like total B**ches.Sebastien_Valmont said:Because you're ugly and you have no personality. Tough Break.
Find girls that you can attract and work your way up.
If a girl treats you like a creep it's because you are.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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That's happened to me many times. I got a little to into it and they get *****y because they're real and won't sugar coat not being into you.
About 80% of the time that was going on for me was when I was looking ugly or was not having a good day personality wise.
Otherwise they're just *****es, in which case you should just enjoy them being mean to other people.
so how do u come on to a chick without coming on as a desperate lovesick wuss?Sebastien_Valmont said:You're probably coming on as a creep.
That's happened to me many times. I got a little to into it and they get *****y because they're real and won't sugar coat not being into you.
About 80% of the time that was going on for me was when I was looking ugly or was not having a good day personality wise.
Otherwise they're just *****es, in which case you should just enjoy them being mean to other people.
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The girl has to know who you are, the key is social networking. Make friends and network your way to her. Hang out with a girl who has a lot of friends in a group setting. That way they know that you're a tight guy because their friend thinks you're a cool guy.
As long as one person thinks you're the best, everyone thinks you're the best.
If alcohol is involved and you're at a party, be terse, say a little thing that gets her to smile. Make sure her eyes say they want you and don't expect anything big to happen. Keep doing what you do saying "hi" to her or smiling at her while you pass her, eventually she'll be buttered up and ready to talk to you.
This is what works for me though. It might be better for you to do it another way. Just keep dealing with crazy *****es until you've figured out how they react to you individually.