"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girls with "boyfriends"

Sneevox

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Okay, so this question is simple:
Is a girl with a "boyfriend" an automatic no? I've pursued multiple girls with boyfriends and it has ended up.. badly. Maybe it's just my approach. I mean, I used to be their emotional tampon, but now I just act like I already have them in my grasps.. because I basically do.

I guess the REAL question here is "At what point can I tell if she is willing to let me steal her, and how do I go about doing that?"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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penkitten

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if you do not mind dealing with any drama that someone with a boyfriend may/may not bring into your life, then go for it.
 

Night-hawk

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Are there not plenty of single girls you can game?

Why bother with the girlfriend stealing?

Is this an entitlement thing? Do you get some rush out of this?
 

Robert28

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I bet you're the type of guy that will go around his head to scratch his ass. why go to all the trouble when there are MUCH easier ways...like going after single girls. sure even some of the single ones "have" boyfriends, but you're really battling an uphill climb here going after girls you KNOW have boyfriends.
 

Zerro

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If she's not interested then she has a boyfriend: whether or not he really exists doesn't matter.
If she's interested then she'll consider you as a replacement for when she tires of her boyfriend.
If she's really interested then she'll forget that she has a boyfriend, just don't act surprised if she then forgets you when the next dude comes along.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If she finds you attractive, she's single and if she finds you unattractive, she's got a boyfriend or is happily married! :trouble:

Case dismissed.
 

r0cky

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Sneevox said:
I guess the REAL question here is "At what point can I tell if she is willing to let me steal her, and how do I go about doing that?"
This form of thinking comes from waiting for the perfect moment. You will never be able to tell if or when she is going to be willing to be stolen.
You must assume that she likes you and make your move.

Sometimes you'll be wrong, but you know what? Sometimes you wil be right.

A man does not wait for his moment, he creates it.
 

Sneevox

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Robert28 said:
I bet you're the type of guy that will go around his head to scratch his ass. why go to all the trouble when there are MUCH easier ways...like going after single girls. sure even some of the single ones "have" boyfriends, but you're really battling an uphill climb here going after girls you KNOW have boyfriends.
I thought this forum was for helping, not insulting.
Thanks anyways.
 

Sneevox

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r0cky said:
This form of thinking comes from waiting for the perfect moment. You will never be able to tell if or when she is going to be willing to be stolen.
You must assume that she likes you and make your move.

Sometimes you'll be wrong, but you know what? Sometimes you wil be right.

A man does not wait for his moment, he creates it.
Thank you. That's helped me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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