"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girls with "boyfriends"

Sneevox

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Okay, so this question is simple:
Is a girl with a "boyfriend" an automatic no? I've pursued multiple girls with boyfriends and it has ended up.. badly. Maybe it's just my approach. I mean, I used to be their emotional tampon, but now I just act like I already have them in my grasps.. because I basically do.

I guess the REAL question here is "At what point can I tell if she is willing to let me steal her, and how do I go about doing that?"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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penkitten

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if you do not mind dealing with any drama that someone with a boyfriend may/may not bring into your life, then go for it.
 

Night-hawk

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Are there not plenty of single girls you can game?

Why bother with the girlfriend stealing?

Is this an entitlement thing? Do you get some rush out of this?
 

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I bet you're the type of guy that will go around his head to scratch his ass. why go to all the trouble when there are MUCH easier ways...like going after single girls. sure even some of the single ones "have" boyfriends, but you're really battling an uphill climb here going after girls you KNOW have boyfriends.
 

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If she's not interested then she has a boyfriend: whether or not he really exists doesn't matter.
If she's interested then she'll consider you as a replacement for when she tires of her boyfriend.
If she's really interested then she'll forget that she has a boyfriend, just don't act surprised if she then forgets you when the next dude comes along.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If she finds you attractive, she's single and if she finds you unattractive, she's got a boyfriend or is happily married! :trouble:

Case dismissed.
 

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Sneevox said:
I guess the REAL question here is "At what point can I tell if she is willing to let me steal her, and how do I go about doing that?"
This form of thinking comes from waiting for the perfect moment. You will never be able to tell if or when she is going to be willing to be stolen.
You must assume that she likes you and make your move.

Sometimes you'll be wrong, but you know what? Sometimes you wil be right.

A man does not wait for his moment, he creates it.
 

Sneevox

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Robert28 said:
I bet you're the type of guy that will go around his head to scratch his ass. why go to all the trouble when there are MUCH easier ways...like going after single girls. sure even some of the single ones "have" boyfriends, but you're really battling an uphill climb here going after girls you KNOW have boyfriends.
I thought this forum was for helping, not insulting.
Thanks anyways.
 

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r0cky said:
This form of thinking comes from waiting for the perfect moment. You will never be able to tell if or when she is going to be willing to be stolen.
You must assume that she likes you and make your move.

Sometimes you'll be wrong, but you know what? Sometimes you wil be right.

A man does not wait for his moment, he creates it.
Thank you. That's helped me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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