"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girls with "boyfriends"

Sneevox

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Okay, so this question is simple:
Is a girl with a "boyfriend" an automatic no? I've pursued multiple girls with boyfriends and it has ended up.. badly. Maybe it's just my approach. I mean, I used to be their emotional tampon, but now I just act like I already have them in my grasps.. because I basically do.

I guess the REAL question here is "At what point can I tell if she is willing to let me steal her, and how do I go about doing that?"
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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penkitten

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if you do not mind dealing with any drama that someone with a boyfriend may/may not bring into your life, then go for it.
 

Night-hawk

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Are there not plenty of single girls you can game?

Why bother with the girlfriend stealing?

Is this an entitlement thing? Do you get some rush out of this?
 

Robert28

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I bet you're the type of guy that will go around his head to scratch his ass. why go to all the trouble when there are MUCH easier ways...like going after single girls. sure even some of the single ones "have" boyfriends, but you're really battling an uphill climb here going after girls you KNOW have boyfriends.
 

Zerro

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If she's not interested then she has a boyfriend: whether or not he really exists doesn't matter.
If she's interested then she'll consider you as a replacement for when she tires of her boyfriend.
If she's really interested then she'll forget that she has a boyfriend, just don't act surprised if she then forgets you when the next dude comes along.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If she finds you attractive, she's single and if she finds you unattractive, she's got a boyfriend or is happily married! :trouble:

Case dismissed.
 

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Sneevox said:
I guess the REAL question here is "At what point can I tell if she is willing to let me steal her, and how do I go about doing that?"
This form of thinking comes from waiting for the perfect moment. You will never be able to tell if or when she is going to be willing to be stolen.
You must assume that she likes you and make your move.

Sometimes you'll be wrong, but you know what? Sometimes you wil be right.

A man does not wait for his moment, he creates it.
 

Sneevox

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Robert28 said:
I bet you're the type of guy that will go around his head to scratch his ass. why go to all the trouble when there are MUCH easier ways...like going after single girls. sure even some of the single ones "have" boyfriends, but you're really battling an uphill climb here going after girls you KNOW have boyfriends.
I thought this forum was for helping, not insulting.
Thanks anyways.
 

Sneevox

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r0cky said:
This form of thinking comes from waiting for the perfect moment. You will never be able to tell if or when she is going to be willing to be stolen.
You must assume that she likes you and make your move.

Sometimes you'll be wrong, but you know what? Sometimes you wil be right.

A man does not wait for his moment, he creates it.
Thank you. That's helped me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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