Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
Would you leave your chick for someone hotter/more intelligent, etc?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
holy ****, this is so much worse than not being with her in the first place. :Xdrmeathead said:its not worth it. the hook up is fine and fun but dont get locked in. dont get attacted, dont. i did. it was a pain in the ass. she actually asked me once when her ex imed her happy b day if i would mind if she chatted with him. i told her no, i would just leave. somehow i was an ******* over that. the killers were her crying at my friends wedding when they played her and the exs song 5 months into our relationship or her calling me by his name about the same time in an arguement. the nail in the coffin was 9 months into it sh admitted to sneaking on to her girls facebook to see his profile and crying over him.
stay away. stay away. stay away. the trust was never there cause i knew how we met. i saw how she would talk to him on the phone and be naked in be with me two minutes later. dont do it.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If she has decided to be indifferent to me, how do i get her to be back to where she was last time?crowes22 said:If she wants you, REALLY wants you, the friend zone is a HARD place to end up. She'll either want you, or be indifferent to you, or quite possibly HATE you, if she feels that you are aware she wants you. Your'e making her feel ,that is why if I don't want her, I try my best to vanish.
Node said:Santos, I disagree.
In my opinion if shes not married she is fair game. Chances are she has never met a DJ like yourself before, so go for it. It is your job as a DJ to show her that there is somthing better available ---YOU! Just be cairflul her BF is not MR Universe!
Good luck man
I actually wanted to ask Crowes22 the same question myself regarding a similar situation that i was in myself this year (a girl that really liked me, knew i liked her and became a little indifferent with me because i wouldn't make a move on her since she is still seeing her distant boyfriend and i felt morally not to do anything about it). Maybe this would help.facadegeniality said:If she has decided to be indifferent to me, how do i get her to be back to where she was last time?
ps i know this is an old post..just hope crowes22 is still around to ans me.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I am in the exact same situation right now, and I pretty much have no clue how to go about it, since the staying away/not seeing each other thing is out of the question for various reasons:KingBeef said:I actually wanted to ask Crowes22 the same question myself regarding a similar situation that i was in myself this year (a girl that really liked me, knew i liked her and became a little indifferent with me because i wouldn't make a move on her since she is still seeing her distant boyfriend and i felt morally not to do anything about it).
- Kingbeef