Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
Would you leave your chick for someone hotter/more intelligent, etc?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
holy ****, this is so much worse than not being with her in the first place. :Xdrmeathead said:its not worth it. the hook up is fine and fun but dont get locked in. dont get attacted, dont. i did. it was a pain in the ass. she actually asked me once when her ex imed her happy b day if i would mind if she chatted with him. i told her no, i would just leave. somehow i was an ******* over that. the killers were her crying at my friends wedding when they played her and the exs song 5 months into our relationship or her calling me by his name about the same time in an arguement. the nail in the coffin was 9 months into it sh admitted to sneaking on to her girls facebook to see his profile and crying over him.
stay away. stay away. stay away. the trust was never there cause i knew how we met. i saw how she would talk to him on the phone and be naked in be with me two minutes later. dont do it.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
If she has decided to be indifferent to me, how do i get her to be back to where she was last time?crowes22 said:If she wants you, REALLY wants you, the friend zone is a HARD place to end up. She'll either want you, or be indifferent to you, or quite possibly HATE you, if she feels that you are aware she wants you. Your'e making her feel ,that is why if I don't want her, I try my best to vanish.
Node said:Santos, I disagree.
In my opinion if shes not married she is fair game. Chances are she has never met a DJ like yourself before, so go for it. It is your job as a DJ to show her that there is somthing better available ---YOU! Just be cairflul her BF is not MR Universe!
Good luck man
I actually wanted to ask Crowes22 the same question myself regarding a similar situation that i was in myself this year (a girl that really liked me, knew i liked her and became a little indifferent with me because i wouldn't make a move on her since she is still seeing her distant boyfriend and i felt morally not to do anything about it). Maybe this would help.facadegeniality said:If she has decided to be indifferent to me, how do i get her to be back to where she was last time?
ps i know this is an old post..just hope crowes22 is still around to ans me.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I am in the exact same situation right now, and I pretty much have no clue how to go about it, since the staying away/not seeing each other thing is out of the question for various reasons:KingBeef said:I actually wanted to ask Crowes22 the same question myself regarding a similar situation that i was in myself this year (a girl that really liked me, knew i liked her and became a little indifferent with me because i wouldn't make a move on her since she is still seeing her distant boyfriend and i felt morally not to do anything about it).
- Kingbeef