Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
Would you leave your chick for someone hotter/more intelligent, etc?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
holy ****, this is so much worse than not being with her in the first place. :Xdrmeathead said:its not worth it. the hook up is fine and fun but dont get locked in. dont get attacted, dont. i did. it was a pain in the ass. she actually asked me once when her ex imed her happy b day if i would mind if she chatted with him. i told her no, i would just leave. somehow i was an ******* over that. the killers were her crying at my friends wedding when they played her and the exs song 5 months into our relationship or her calling me by his name about the same time in an arguement. the nail in the coffin was 9 months into it sh admitted to sneaking on to her girls facebook to see his profile and crying over him.
stay away. stay away. stay away. the trust was never there cause i knew how we met. i saw how she would talk to him on the phone and be naked in be with me two minutes later. dont do it.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
If she has decided to be indifferent to me, how do i get her to be back to where she was last time?crowes22 said:If she wants you, REALLY wants you, the friend zone is a HARD place to end up. She'll either want you, or be indifferent to you, or quite possibly HATE you, if she feels that you are aware she wants you. Your'e making her feel ,that is why if I don't want her, I try my best to vanish.
Node said:Santos, I disagree.
In my opinion if shes not married she is fair game. Chances are she has never met a DJ like yourself before, so go for it. It is your job as a DJ to show her that there is somthing better available ---YOU! Just be cairflul her BF is not MR Universe!
Good luck man
I actually wanted to ask Crowes22 the same question myself regarding a similar situation that i was in myself this year (a girl that really liked me, knew i liked her and became a little indifferent with me because i wouldn't make a move on her since she is still seeing her distant boyfriend and i felt morally not to do anything about it). Maybe this would help.facadegeniality said:If she has decided to be indifferent to me, how do i get her to be back to where she was last time?
ps i know this is an old post..just hope crowes22 is still around to ans me.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I am in the exact same situation right now, and I pretty much have no clue how to go about it, since the staying away/not seeing each other thing is out of the question for various reasons:KingBeef said:I actually wanted to ask Crowes22 the same question myself regarding a similar situation that i was in myself this year (a girl that really liked me, knew i liked her and became a little indifferent with me because i wouldn't make a move on her since she is still seeing her distant boyfriend and i felt morally not to do anything about it).
- Kingbeef