"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girls that smoke!

S-lemond

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I just cant bring myself to like a girl that smokes!!! you know what i mean! the reason i hate it so much, is because half of them smoke, because there trying to fit in! my gosh be urself!!!....whats u guys opinions on gurls that smoke...idk it might not even bother u guys
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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arutha

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For a while it didn't bother me at all, there are actually some sorts that don't smell bad. And I suppose if the girl was good enough I wouldn't let the simple fact that she smoked stop me, though I would express my dislike for it, in most cases I think I'll just stay away from them I think.
 

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yeah and just think of the bad breathe. For some reason girls that smoke remind me of prostitutes. And for the girls that do it just to be hard-asses, that is just deadset sad.
 

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Yeah I don't like them either.


However, I actually kind of like girls that smoke pot on occasion, or are at least open to it (I don't like the ones that are big druggies though, just the ones that do it only so often with some guys). I think it kind of shows that the girl is pretty outgoing and open to new things, which I like.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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i absolutely hate girls who smoke just to look cool...
 

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boys, here's the secret: if they smoke, they poke.

consider yourselves enlightened.
 

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I like a girl that experiments with pot some times...i agree it shows they are outgoing and whatnot.

But if a girl smokes cigs to look cool, and she does it around me, I tell her to her face right before she lights up:

"Before you light that up, realize that if you do I will not kiss or touch you in any way tonight. Girls like you do not need to smoke to look attractive or cool."

I never like telling a girl that she is attractive or hot all AFC like, but in this situation that's what I prefer to say. Makes me sound more wise and mature, most girls, especially younger ones, get turned on by that stuff.

By getting with a girl that smokes, or even worse dating a girl that smokes, I feel I am lowering my requirements. I tell the girl if she wants to be around me, she's not going to smoke cigs.

And yes, if they smoke they are usually more open to physical stuff, although I don't like a mouth full of tar and cig chemicals sloshin around on my ****.

My 8 cents...
 

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looks like were all on the same page in here!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Easy solution:

If her smoking turns you off completely, find some other chick that doesn't.

If her smoking is just a minor blemish in how amazingly hot and personable she is, then look past it, and maybe try to get her to stop.

Edit: by the way, not all girls smoke to look cool or hot. It's a drug. Some girls smoke because they're addicted to the ****.
 

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NICE job spegon! This post is HOT look how many hits you got pimp. By the way I like your tan....hehe

EDIT: By the way he's talking about girls who "HOOK UP" with "MARY JANE" not ciggys.
 
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