"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls that smoke pot

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more than once in a long while..

comments?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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some of my girl friends who were studying to become doctors back in college used to smoke every once in a while. they are smart and beautiful. and they're doctors now. they don't smoke anymore though. haha
 

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Juan Don said:
some of my girl friends who were studying to become doctors back in college used to smoke every once in a while. they are smart and beautiful. and they're doctors now. they don't smoke anymore though. haha

ok, intersting. I'm torn on whether to view it as a big flaw in character or not.
 

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my wife smokes pot a few times a month. not really that big a deal to me. generally when we go out to friends house. we don't do it at home (with the son) though.
 

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backbreaker said:
my wife smokes pot a few times a month. not really that big a deal to me. generally when we go out to friends house. we don't do it at home (with the son) though.
what is your opinion if your wife consistently bought it as part of her routine?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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st_99 said:
what is your opinion if your wife consistently bought it as part of her routine?
considering I am a recovering addict she wouldn't be my wife


ik can live with once a week joint/ blunt smoking. it's IMHO pretty harmless.

it's not so much the drug but a person who smokes weed like, everyday, are trying to mask for something/ get away from something or don't want to face something.


if she started smoking like everyday we would have issues. though she won't.
 

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I'm for stoner chicks.

But, it more depends on how much she smokes cigarettes. I smoke weed but only weed. It's a tragedy that most stoners are smokers and therein lies the relationship with the question of how much a chick smokes weed.
backbreaker:
it's not so much the drug but a person who smokes weed like, everyday, are trying to mask for something/ get away from something or don't want to face something.
True, but they may also have a medical condition, most especially in your state of California. Also, as for “everyday,” I draw a distinction between someone who smokes in the evenings, every night, to wind down after work, rather than drink a beer or glass of wine, and someone who smokes every day all day long. It's not the number of days of the week but whether if they are responsible with their life, and this will be more prevalent once weed is legalized somewhere within the next few years.
 

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I'm for stoner chicks.

But, it more depends on how much she smokes cigarettes. I smoke weed but only weed. It's a tragedy that most stoners are smokers and therein lies the relationship with the question of how much a chick smokes weed.True, but they may also have a medical condition, most especially in your state of California. Also, as for “everyday,” I draw a distinction between someone who smokes in the evenings, every night, to wind down after work, rather than drink a beer or glass of wine, and someone who smokes every day all day long. It's not the number of days of the week but whether if they are responsible with their life, and this will be more prevalent once weed is legalized somewhere within the next few years.
it's about personal preference. I don't want anyone who has to do antyhing to wind down everyday, even drinking. we have about 1,000 dollars worth of alcohol in the house and you can count the glasses of alcohol we both drink a month on both hands. maybe when I'm watching a football game, maybe when we are watching boardwalk empire, maybe when we have company.. but a woman that has to drink everyday to "unwind" is not my type of woman.
 

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backbreaker:
it's about personal preference. I don't want anyone who has to do antyhing to wind down everyday, even drinking.
You're absolutely right that your choice whether to allow someone to enter your life is personal preference, although my point is that projecting the assertion someone must inherently be running away from problems falls under the realm of objectivity, beyond subjective personal preference. I've gone through alcohol counseling once and I totally agree that substance abuse is always the tip of the iceberg of deeper issues, although responsible recreational use is not and likewise there should be no judgement of their character, aside from personal preference.
 

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but using any drug every day, is not "responsible recreational", it's tittering on dependance if not addiction.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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According to science, which I can cite, marijuana has the same dependence and addiction rating (9) as caffeine. I hardly think someone who visits Starbucks every morning on their daily commute has a real irresponsible 'problem' worthy of counseling.
 

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Weed makes women raggedy.
 
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I wouldn't go near a woman who smokes weed or does any other form of drugs, just in the same way I wouldn't go out with a woman who reeked of cigarettes or went out to clubs to get slaughtered every weekend, but that's just me.
 

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It's really a personal choice to have to make. Do you mind it? Does her smoking pot affect you in a negative way? Personally, I used to be a big time stoner and I'll smoke a bowl with my roomie every month or so if I'm relaxing, so a casual pot smoke (once a week even) doesn't really bug me
 

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It's really a personal choice to have to make. Do you mind it? Does her smoking pot affect you in a negative way? Personally, I used to be a big time stoner and I'll smoke a bowl with my roomie every month or so if I'm relaxing, so a casual pot smoke (once a week even) doesn't really bug me
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DonGorgon said:
they are usually druggies and pot is not all they do.. they are unstable and flaky and will choose the dude will narcotics every time... they tend tko crash and burn fast aslo
No, they're not. That is a huge generalisation with no basis in truth. At least where I live, everyone smokes weed. Most my friends, my mums clients who are doctors, lawyers... None of them do any drugs besides alchohol and weed.

As for it being a gateway drug, the real gateway drug is alchohol. Most people who do any other drug also drink, people who smoke pot don't move up as often because it's a different culture. In fact it is more the enviroment the drugs are being taken, if people smoke weed at a friends they probably won't smoke crack, if they smoke at their dealers they are far more likely too.
 

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A woman who does drugs doesn't meet my standards. Marijuana is a drug; hence, she is not dateable. I would still bang her though, haha.
 

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intersting opinions. if i had a choice between 2 desirable women, 1 smoked the other did not, i would choose does not every time.
 

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Girls that smoke weed i'm totally cool with, but girls that smoke cigarettes are just.... meh. HELL NO ***** GET AWAY FROM ME WITH YOUR SMELLY ASS.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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