She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Juan Don said:some of my girl friends who were studying to become doctors back in college used to smoke every once in a while. they are smart and beautiful. and they're doctors now. they don't smoke anymore though. haha
what is your opinion if your wife consistently bought it as part of her routine?backbreaker said:my wife smokes pot a few times a month. not really that big a deal to me. generally when we go out to friends house. we don't do it at home (with the son) though.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
considering I am a recovering addict she wouldn't be my wifest_99 said:what is your opinion if your wife consistently bought it as part of her routine?
True, but they may also have a medical condition, most especially in your state of California. Also, as for “everyday,” I draw a distinction between someone who smokes in the evenings, every night, to wind down after work, rather than drink a beer or glass of wine, and someone who smokes every day all day long. It's not the number of days of the week but whether if they are responsible with their life, and this will be more prevalent once weed is legalized somewhere within the next few years.backbreaker:
it's not so much the drug but a person who smokes weed like, everyday, are trying to mask for something/ get away from something or don't want to face something.
it's about personal preference. I don't want anyone who has to do antyhing to wind down everyday, even drinking. we have about 1,000 dollars worth of alcohol in the house and you can count the glasses of alcohol we both drink a month on both hands. maybe when I'm watching a football game, maybe when we are watching boardwalk empire, maybe when we have company.. but a woman that has to drink everyday to "unwind" is not my type of woman.Deep Dish said:I'm for stoner chicks.
But, it more depends on how much she smokes cigarettes. I smoke weed but only weed. It's a tragedy that most stoners are smokers and therein lies the relationship with the question of how much a chick smokes weed.True, but they may also have a medical condition, most especially in your state of California. Also, as for “everyday,” I draw a distinction between someone who smokes in the evenings, every night, to wind down after work, rather than drink a beer or glass of wine, and someone who smokes every day all day long. It's not the number of days of the week but whether if they are responsible with their life, and this will be more prevalent once weed is legalized somewhere within the next few years.
You're absolutely right that your choice whether to allow someone to enter your life is personal preference, although my point is that projecting the assertion someone must inherently be running away from problems falls under the realm of objectivity, beyond subjective personal preference. I've gone through alcohol counseling once and I totally agree that substance abuse is always the tip of the iceberg of deeper issues, although responsible recreational use is not and likewise there should be no judgement of their character, aside from personal preference.backbreaker:
it's about personal preference. I don't want anyone who has to do antyhing to wind down everyday, even drinking.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
they are usually druggies and pot is not all they do.. they are unstable and flaky and will choose the dude will narcotics every time... they tend tko crash and burn fast aslost_99 said:more than once in a long while..
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No, they're not. That is a huge generalisation with no basis in truth. At least where I live, everyone smokes weed. Most my friends, my mums clients who are doctors, lawyers... None of them do any drugs besides alchohol and weed.DonGorgon said:they are usually druggies and pot is not all they do.. they are unstable and flaky and will choose the dude will narcotics every time... they tend tko crash and burn fast aslo
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.