"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
girls that approach
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
In any case I've been approached by such woman several imes, no biggie, it's easier for you then because you are 100% sure there's interest on her end, just have her qualify herself to you.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
it totally threw me.
i thought they were going to gang rape me in the elevator. i didnt AFC though, i joked it up with them.
when chit like that happens it makes you realize how uncomfortable the world must be for women sometimes.
i mean, hey, i had no physical worries so it was just interesting.
i can't imagine how that must feel to women who don't know what an unknown guy (or guys) are capable of.
J
The thing is they're used to it. Like self-mastery said if they turn the tables on me and Im not expecting it at all it really throws me off my game.
If I could choose between having to approach and being approached all night, Id probably choose nr. 2 tho
Warrior Princess
Don Juan
I don't mind girls asking for my number, calling me and being forward or even a touch clingy, but sexually forward women in general put me off.
I actually had a woman try something resembling speed seduction with me once. She started talking about animal mating rituals and orgasms etc. Damn freak!
Before I even say anything, the UG of the group opens me with "Hey gorgeous" and I get assaulted with a barrage of compliments from the group as a whole. "I like your shirt" "You have pretty eyes" "I like your shoes" "You look like a skater... that's hot. Do you snowboard too?" I was caught completely off gaurd. I just kind of answered a few questions they threw at me, and then went to my room and tried to figure out what the hell just happened.
My game has improved a lot since then, though, and now I would probably agree with their compliments, bust on them for being too in love with me, joke that they could pay me for a date, tell them that they're all out of luck because I'm saving myself for when someone real special comes along (in a cheeky manner) and ask her what makes her so special. I'd have fun with it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.