"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
girls that approach
- Thread starter madgame
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
In any case I've been approached by such woman several imes, no biggie, it's easier for you then because you are 100% sure there's interest on her end, just have her qualify herself to you.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
it totally threw me.
i thought they were going to gang rape me in the elevator. i didnt AFC though, i joked it up with them.
when chit like that happens it makes you realize how uncomfortable the world must be for women sometimes.
i mean, hey, i had no physical worries so it was just interesting.
i can't imagine how that must feel to women who don't know what an unknown guy (or guys) are capable of.
J
The thing is they're used to it. Like self-mastery said if they turn the tables on me and Im not expecting it at all it really throws me off my game.
If I could choose between having to approach and being approached all night, Id probably choose nr. 2 tho
Warrior Princess
Don Juan
I don't mind girls asking for my number, calling me and being forward or even a touch clingy, but sexually forward women in general put me off.
I actually had a woman try something resembling speed seduction with me once. She started talking about animal mating rituals and orgasms etc. Damn freak!
Before I even say anything, the UG of the group opens me with "Hey gorgeous" and I get assaulted with a barrage of compliments from the group as a whole. "I like your shirt" "You have pretty eyes" "I like your shoes" "You look like a skater... that's hot. Do you snowboard too?" I was caught completely off gaurd. I just kind of answered a few questions they threw at me, and then went to my room and tried to figure out what the hell just happened.
My game has improved a lot since then, though, and now I would probably agree with their compliments, bust on them for being too in love with me, joke that they could pay me for a date, tell them that they're all out of luck because I'm saving myself for when someone real special comes along (in a cheeky manner) and ask her what makes her so special. I'd have fun with it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.