SELF-MASTERY
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DreamyChick, what have you learned about men in your 4 years of being a member here????
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Nah none taken, trust me I'm not always this dipomaticmr_elor said:Fair enough mate, I'm open minded enough to say that you're certainly entitled to your own opinions, in fact I know the world would be a far less interesting place if we all agreed on anything. However I'm simply not going to agree with you on this, and if disagreeing with people makes me a flamer then so be it.
If not 'chilling' means I'm not a DJ, then so be it (besides, 'DJ' is a label, as long as I'm happy I don't care how much of the DJ criteria I fulfill).
Anyway, no offense to you mate, you seem like a decent guy and I'm not trying to have a go. Unfortunately I'm not as diplomatic as yourself.
That I am attracted to the wrong kinds of guys.SELF-MASTERY said:DreamyChick, what have you learned about men in your 4 years of being a member here????
What kind of guys are you attracted too???DreamyChick said:That I am attracted to the wrong kinds of guys.
Yes you did.SELF-MASTERY said:What kind of guys are you attracted too???
Weren't you the one who had a crush on some guy you worked with that had a girlfriend or something like that?? Didn't we yell at you and called you names?:box:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yes she never answered all of the question.S1NN3R said:Ok, there are just way too many of the little punchy punchy dude. My vertigo is giving me fits now.
Let's get back to the subject of DreamyChick here and the kind of guys that she's attracted to compared to the kind of guy she feels she should be attracted to (sans little punchy punchy dude, if at all possible). Knowing if it's the board that had an effect on her revelation might help solidify proof that girls have a place here if they can recieve as much help as the guys.
For the record that coworker has moved on and so have I. However, he seemed a whole heck of a lot more mature being in his 30's then the guy I currently like. Why are you going to give me a hard time for being attracted to a man that's got his act together?SELF-MASTERY said:and now you are back for more?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Carlos Mencia just addressed this issue during the monologue on his show yesterday; you should check that out.DonJuanByNature said:Like it or not, girls most of the time DONT KNOW what they want. They say I want a nice guy with this and that and then you see them being with a jerk in an abusive/unapreciated relationship... and the whole time their "nice" guy friend is always there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on... Thus, taking advice from a girl will not help your AFC situation...
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
SELF-MASTERY said:DreamyChick, stop being such a chick (jk) I wasn't getting on you for liking that guy. I just remembered that thread and how people responded. I might have said something mean, but I dont remember and who cares that was months...maybe a year or more ago...
What is your definition of maturity? We here women claim that they want mature men, but they never define what that means... What makes the current guy immature. BTW you will never just be friends with him, so stop pretending...
LOL at you. You obviously haven't read many posts by me. There is a reason why I always put the word "game" in quotation marks. I've always believed that attraction was natural and simple and shouldn't take that much work.DonJuanForever said:Lol, Mastery, I still think YOU think, it's a "game." There is no game. When a
DJF
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.