SELF-MASTERY
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DreamyChick, what have you learned about men in your 4 years of being a member here????
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Nah none taken, trust me I'm not always this dipomaticmr_elor said:Fair enough mate, I'm open minded enough to say that you're certainly entitled to your own opinions, in fact I know the world would be a far less interesting place if we all agreed on anything. However I'm simply not going to agree with you on this, and if disagreeing with people makes me a flamer then so be it.
If not 'chilling' means I'm not a DJ, then so be it (besides, 'DJ' is a label, as long as I'm happy I don't care how much of the DJ criteria I fulfill).
Anyway, no offense to you mate, you seem like a decent guy and I'm not trying to have a go. Unfortunately I'm not as diplomatic as yourself.
That I am attracted to the wrong kinds of guys.SELF-MASTERY said:DreamyChick, what have you learned about men in your 4 years of being a member here????
What kind of guys are you attracted too???DreamyChick said:That I am attracted to the wrong kinds of guys.
Yes you did.SELF-MASTERY said:What kind of guys are you attracted too???
Weren't you the one who had a crush on some guy you worked with that had a girlfriend or something like that?? Didn't we yell at you and called you names?:box:
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Yes she never answered all of the question.S1NN3R said:Ok, there are just way too many of the little punchy punchy dude. My vertigo is giving me fits now.
Let's get back to the subject of DreamyChick here and the kind of guys that she's attracted to compared to the kind of guy she feels she should be attracted to (sans little punchy punchy dude, if at all possible). Knowing if it's the board that had an effect on her revelation might help solidify proof that girls have a place here if they can recieve as much help as the guys.
For the record that coworker has moved on and so have I. However, he seemed a whole heck of a lot more mature being in his 30's then the guy I currently like. Why are you going to give me a hard time for being attracted to a man that's got his act together?SELF-MASTERY said:and now you are back for more?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Carlos Mencia just addressed this issue during the monologue on his show yesterday; you should check that out.DonJuanByNature said:Like it or not, girls most of the time DONT KNOW what they want. They say I want a nice guy with this and that and then you see them being with a jerk in an abusive/unapreciated relationship... and the whole time their "nice" guy friend is always there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on... Thus, taking advice from a girl will not help your AFC situation...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SELF-MASTERY said:DreamyChick, stop being such a chick (jk) I wasn't getting on you for liking that guy. I just remembered that thread and how people responded. I might have said something mean, but I dont remember and who cares that was months...maybe a year or more ago...
What is your definition of maturity? We here women claim that they want mature men, but they never define what that means... What makes the current guy immature. BTW you will never just be friends with him, so stop pretending...
LOL at you. You obviously haven't read many posts by me. There is a reason why I always put the word "game" in quotation marks. I've always believed that attraction was natural and simple and shouldn't take that much work.DonJuanForever said:Lol, Mastery, I still think YOU think, it's a "game." There is no game. When a
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.