"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls seem to ignore me!!!

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ImprovingJuan

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i don't know if it's my appearance or my personality but it seems i'm Mr. Invisible for girls. i never lost hope and know that i found this webpage i have some weapons i can use to my help. i read here about a webpage http://www.hotornot i was thinking of putting a pic there to see what girls and people in general think of me as a man. i'm not hot i think but i'm not a monster, but getting my pic checked by gays or people just wanting to make fun sucks so i forgot that webpage. i could put it here so you guys could give an honest and neutral opinion on it. well i don't need other's approval, i'am what i am but if i can change something and is for better so let it be. of course i'm assuming this board and this is my first post but i've been here reading lots of stuff is for males who like woman, so i guess any gay comments are out of question so that's great

http://gmail.google.com/gmail?view=att&disp=attd&attid=0.1&th=101503f97b6851e1

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http://gmail.google.com/gmail?view=att&disp=inline&attid=0.1&th=101503ac1ddd7f4e

i'm the guy in black.

edit: i'm not doing this to get my ego boosted or the contrary, i just wanna some opinions.maybe the problem is not physical but in my attitude, i seriously don't know...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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well i don't need other's approval,

If this were true, you wouldn't have contemplated putting your pic on hotornot. And to make matters worse, you didn't follow through because you're 'weak', you couldn't of handled the criticism. True Alpha's, DJ's, don't care what others think of them. They walk around like they're the shiot because they 'are'. I know this may seem a little mean, but once in a while we all need a little 'tough love' to kick our butts into gear.

maybe the problem is not physical but in my attitude

gee, ya think?
 
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Why? What are you afraid of? Are you not secure with your manhood?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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of course i am secure, i may have some insecurity problems but my manhood is not one of them that's for sure.
 
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Approach! Start up the convos, don't wait for them to take control.

I had the same problem as you, and not only with girls, just people in general. What made it go away is me realizing how desperate I was for others' attention. You dont wanna be the needy kid desperate to fit in. Be cool and relaxed, and you will get noticed.
 
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my manhood is not one of them that's for sure

so gay comments shouldn't bother you then...
 
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Originally posted by biker_gixxer
my manhood is not one of them that's for sure

so gay comments shouldn't bother you then...
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Actually, from a logistical perspective receiving compliments from gay men are goods things taking that a lot of them are very picky, even pickier than most women. I think you should still stop them if one tried getting a little too close, though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hm. Well maybe you ought to make yourself visible to these girls. Just go up there and talk to them - if you approach girls, girls will eventually approach you.
 
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I have a gay friend (shocking music here). And I am not a single bit afraid of him. When he said he would date me if I didnt have a gf, I just took it as a compliment (more shocking music!:eek: ). 6 months ago, I'd freak and cut all contact, but now I am comfortable with my sexuality, and don't care. Besides, rgeere hit the nail on the head. Gays are way more sensitive about fine details than the rest of the guys, and even some of the girls. That's why their sense of style and fashion is very good (please, if you like wearing pants so low that any moment they could become socks, combined with dirty urban hoodies, then don't argue with me about fashion or a sense of. thanx).

Besides, they won't steal your chicks :D
 
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Redneck
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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