"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls seem to ignore me!!!

ImprovingJuan

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i don't know if it's my appearance or my personality but it seems i'm Mr. Invisible for girls. i never lost hope and know that i found this webpage i have some weapons i can use to my help. i read here about a webpage http://www.hotornot i was thinking of putting a pic there to see what girls and people in general think of me as a man. i'm not hot i think but i'm not a monster, but getting my pic checked by gays or people just wanting to make fun sucks so i forgot that webpage. i could put it here so you guys could give an honest and neutral opinion on it. well i don't need other's approval, i'am what i am but if i can change something and is for better so let it be. of course i'm assuming this board and this is my first post but i've been here reading lots of stuff is for males who like woman, so i guess any gay comments are out of question so that's great

http://gmail.google.com/gmail?view=att&disp=attd&attid=0.1&th=101503f97b6851e1

and

http://gmail.google.com/gmail?view=att&disp=inline&attid=0.1&th=101503ac1ddd7f4e

i'm the guy in black.

edit: i'm not doing this to get my ego boosted or the contrary, i just wanna some opinions.maybe the problem is not physical but in my attitude, i seriously don't know...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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biker_gixxer

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well i don't need other's approval,

If this were true, you wouldn't have contemplated putting your pic on hotornot. And to make matters worse, you didn't follow through because you're 'weak', you couldn't of handled the criticism. True Alpha's, DJ's, don't care what others think of them. They walk around like they're the shiot because they 'are'. I know this may seem a little mean, but once in a while we all need a little 'tough love' to kick our butts into gear.

maybe the problem is not physical but in my attitude

gee, ya think?
 

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Why? What are you afraid of? Are you not secure with your manhood?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ImprovingJuan

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of course i am secure, i may have some insecurity problems but my manhood is not one of them that's for sure.
 

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Approach! Start up the convos, don't wait for them to take control.

I had the same problem as you, and not only with girls, just people in general. What made it go away is me realizing how desperate I was for others' attention. You dont wanna be the needy kid desperate to fit in. Be cool and relaxed, and you will get noticed.
 

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my manhood is not one of them that's for sure

so gay comments shouldn't bother you then...
 

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Originally posted by biker_gixxer
my manhood is not one of them that's for sure

so gay comments shouldn't bother you then...
Actually, from a logistical perspective receiving compliments from gay men are goods things taking that a lot of them are very picky, even pickier than most women. I think you should still stop them if one tried getting a little too close, though.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Craig Reeves

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Hm. Well maybe you ought to make yourself visible to these girls. Just go up there and talk to them - if you approach girls, girls will eventually approach you.
 

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I have a gay friend (shocking music here). And I am not a single bit afraid of him. When he said he would date me if I didnt have a gf, I just took it as a compliment (more shocking music!:eek: ). 6 months ago, I'd freak and cut all contact, but now I am comfortable with my sexuality, and don't care. Besides, rgeere hit the nail on the head. Gays are way more sensitive about fine details than the rest of the guys, and even some of the girls. That's why their sense of style and fashion is very good (please, if you like wearing pants so low that any moment they could become socks, combined with dirty urban hoodies, then don't argue with me about fashion or a sense of. thanx).

Besides, they won't steal your chicks :D
 

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Redneck
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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